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Hi SB,

What a sensitive and lovely response.

Cheers to you on Plow Day (that is a UK holiday). I am not sure what one does on Plow day, but if I find out I will let you know.

Cheers to you!

Maureen M.

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P.S. I am sorry, TSF, I fired off prematurely. I do not know you, but you sound like a very perceptive person, and I love your talent for the "turn of phrase." Your road is a hard one, and I wish you the very best. I think Ms. Sara B. provided an amazing response here, which I don't feel able to really add much to, I am happy you are here in this tiny crew of Sara B. commenters and look forward to seeing you pop up here again.

Wishing you the very best,

Maureen Murphy

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Nov 30, 2023·edited Nov 30, 2023

This is so nice, Sara. You are kind and thoughtful in your advice.

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OP - I could have asked this exact question. I went from going out and being active almost every day to pretty much being housebound overnight. One day I was over at my best friend’s place, which is one of the few places I can go because I can climb into her bed and watch movies or talk or whatever. If I need to nap, I’m already in bed. So a mutual acquaintance calls my friend one day and was on speaker phone when the lady referred to me as “that girl that does nothing but lay in bed all day and drain your energy”. Now I know my bestie does not think that at all, but it still hurt and made me feel like a burden and boring.

Sara - this is such a loving, empathetic response. Thank you for your compassion and tenderness.

To All Y’all - you are beautiful, vibrant, clever, loving people and I wake up each morning thankful I get to be part of such a lovely community of Mommyblogging, Recipe-sharing, Dick joke enthusiasts as yourselves!

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That person on the phone is a jerk with no empathy. I feel I know you as well as they do at this point (meaning not at all), and I think you're wonderful.

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Thank you!

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I am Sara's groupie, but she doesn't know it yet!

Oh, Damn!

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We are a Mighty Tribe!

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Thich Nhat Hanh is a good recommendation.

He's helped me understand some shit.

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I love listening to his books on Audible to fall asleep. 😴

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Thich Nhat Hanh, and his work, have taught me more about myself than I ever thought I'd know. No mud, no lotus. Really, no mud, no lotus.

Peace be upon him.

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I haven't heard of this writer before but for the title alone, I'll have to search him out. (I mean on the library shelf not stalking.)

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https://twitter.com/chelseahandler/status/1729683431943016777?t=VrfVCxVsD-3Tf3nZJcUt8A&s=19

Chelsea Handler preaches the gospel truth about Our Savior, Dolly Parton.

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It's such a lonely world. Most of my favorite people were folks that I only met once or twice, and now I don't even remember their names. (except Jimmy Joe the hippiebilly with the beat-up Toyota, he had a great name!)

But it helps to know that I did meet them and we got along on a very real level. Deep inside most people feel lonesome to some degree, and feeling lonesome and left-out is a very common feeling for a human to have.

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“Life goes on, and while everything dies, if I squint it can seem like it matters a damn that everything lives first."

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Dear Sara,

How do I get more loving butt hugs?

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Have a loving butt?

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Call me, we should meet

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Dear TSF, probably 80% of people will write you off, because THEY are too shallow, on multiple levels of measurement. You seem to be in the 20% group that considers and appreciates individuals.

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So we have thoughtful, caring advice or “fuck your feelings/Bootstraps” advice. I choose you people.

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Here, here!

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EyeQueue mentioned Alan Parsons below. As far as I'm concerned a top contender for most underrated bands.

Alan Parsons + Bee Gees (who are totally on-point here):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7LMJyK0lj1U

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I just love this song.

And, yeah, I'm a fucking dumb dumb.

I've heard this song my entire life (Alan Parsons was a HUGE favorite of my dad's), and it wasn't until I was obsessively listening to it over the past six months that I realized it's talking about Vegas.

😅🤣😂😅🤣😂😅🤣😂

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The whole album is about Vegas. :)

Also probably the whole album is a metaphor. :)

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I had no idea. 😅🤣😂😅🤣😂😅🤣😂

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Couple of standout moments at the service today:

[ Judy Woodruff at the memorial service for Rosalynn Carter:

"I last interviewed President and Mrs. Carter together in July, 2021. I asked them how they thought President Biden was doing early in his term. Mrs. Carter said simply, it's a great relief to have him in office."

[Amy Carter: (a moment of levity)

"Secretary Clinton and Dr. Biden, we also welcome your lovely husbands."]

Melania's reaction:

https://pbs.twimg.com/media/GAC4ePEWEAAmmcr?format=jpg&name=small

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Why was Melon even 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦?

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It's gracious that she was invited, and that she attended.

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I think she was asking herself the same question at these points in the service. lmao

She probably got a good $$$$$$$$$ bonus, up front of course, to make an appearance.

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Because inviting former First Ladies is just what's done I guess.

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And Rosalyn would have invited her anyway.

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McCarthy has got nothing but time and a sharpener for his back stabbin' knife

https://www.rawstory.com/mccarthy-gaetz-santos/

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LetThemFight.gif

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Nov 29, 2023Liked by ziggywiggy

Ah, the pandemic times.

I was just half-watching an old episode of 20/20 and it rolled into one of their periodic specials that they were doing on Covid. It was in early April 2020. Yikes. NYC was using refrigerated trucks as morgues; docs were trying to figure out whether masks helped you, or those around you, or both; scientists were furiously testing whether antibodies from people who already had it could help those who were currently in the throes of it; nobody could tell how the stimmy checks would go out and to whom; and PAB was suggesting that the country would be fully open by 4/30/20.

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Dark times. The person I was involved with at the time was on the front lines of figuring out what to do and reported indirectly to Cuomo. I think the stress of it is what sent her around the bend into madness and self-destruction.

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So many casualties we never even think about :(

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Covid caused a swath of mental health crises that cut through DOH like fire through a field of dry cornstalks. It was so bad. People don’t know.

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I think people are still suffering from the mental health effects of the pandemic and all of the follow-in bullshit. :(

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Absolutely. If I recall correctly it’s been well documented.

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And there are those people who were affected by the enforced isolation in ways that don't show.....

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I do not miss those times

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Nor I.

The hospital where I was born, was especially hard-hit.

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I feel...seen.

As someone who is now very isolated secondary to a disability I don't allow myself to form terribly close relationships with other far more independent human beings. It is my worst nightmare to be any semblance of a burden and when able bodied friends want to go out, go places and do things I can't keep up. I know that so I stay home and keep to myself.

It's a little annoying for Cat the Ripper and paul once in a while, but for the most part I'm not getting on anyone's nerves.

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Well, I like you, and surely some of your irl friends are like me; not one to count up how many times a disabled person needs a hand or a moment's extra consideration. After all, I _married_ someone disabled from birth. Its no big deal because he's well worth being around.

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Honey? You are one of the smartest, coolest people I know. It would be an honor hanging out at home with you.

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You're welcome here anytime!

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Mrs Pixelz was in a wheelchair near the end. I would give up several of my body organs for a chance to again push, fold the chair, lock wheels while she holds on to me for transfer in and out of that chair. "In sickness and in health" turns out to be a real thing.

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[quietly embraces you]

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May you get some sleep tonight.

This budgie will as well.

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I managed to get in a few hours of sleep last night, precious feathered friend. It was only 3 or 4 hours but it has made a difference this morning.

Tonight I'm aiming for FIVE.

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Go, you. It’s truly amazing to me how much of a difference some sleep makes in my attitude.

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Hoomin friend of mine took a brief flight outside.

She saw a couple of lovely black children walking home from school.

After that, she saw this birb out there, down the block from her house.

https://www.instagram.com/p/C0PjpvEOFTW/?igshid=NzBmMjdhZWRiYQ==

Then she saw another lovely black family walking together.

The weather was chilly. Hoomin had a good little trippp.

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