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Annie Jomes's avatar

When I realized that I had a serious drinking problem and needed help, I called AA, trying to find meeetings near me, and I asked if there were any women-only meetings (I was living in a large metro area with a lot of meetings all over the place). And the response was laughter, and some sort of commentary like "oh honey, why would you need such a thing?" (I needed such a thing because of trauma, you asshole.)

So I said fuck this to AA, and found a different group (Women for Sobriety) which had meetings about a half-hour from where I lived. I went to meetings for about six months, and they were very helpful. Eventually I felt like I'd gotten everything I needed from the meetings, so I stopped going, but a lot of the things I used in WfS are still helpful to me. I have been sober for 22 years.

All that is to say that not only was AA not helpful to me, they were actively harmful. If I had been a bit more fragile, I might have decided that it was too hard and I couldn't do it. Because I was laughed at. Fuck AA.

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Lil Snot's avatar

I'm really tired of the disrespect shown to atheists. We are not immoral, amoral, lost, stupid, experiencing a great void in our lives. In fact, counting on a big sky daddy to save us from our current stew of problems seems pretty dicey to me...

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