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I stumbled on one of these men's right's sites awhile ago. The level of misogyny, nastiness and sheer hostility to women was unbelievable. It seemed populated by a bunch of men "f' ed over" by wimmens. Some highlights were:

Women shouldn't work and should have my dinner on the table when I get home Western women are not worth marrying and will compete with you Women don't do anything all day if they don't work. I mean the laundry takes an hour. Women are sluts and teases and deserve what they get You are a c*nt if you disagree and a stupid c*nt if you reply to one of their rants cogently

It was frightening

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British TV: always in the forefront of feminism.

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I remember the time my brother was bitching about gay guys being less closeted--not that he's bigoted or anything, of course.

"I mean," he said. "It's obnoxious! Ican't sit at the bar and have a beer without some guy trying to hit on me!"

Rough when that shit happens to you, int?

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I could have sworn the War on Men was those things they're doing over in Iraq and Afghanistan, with all the shooting and bombs. Lotta guys getting killed and whatnot.

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Over the course of my career as a social worker, I cannot even begin to count all of the times that clients, clients' advocates and family, and other agencies were put off by the fact that I was a _male_ social worker. One family called the police when I showed up at their door for a _scheduled_ in-home assessment because, and I quote, "Who the hell ever heard of a _man_ being a social worker?"

My gender especially troublesome when I worked for an agency that provided services to victims of domestic violence. Basically none of the DV victims trusted me and consistently cancelled or simply didn't show up for any of the appointments that we had scheduled and wouldn't answer or return my phone calls.

My very young, very green female co-worker earned herself a permanent position and a promotion for picking up all of the clients that I was "failing to reach" and I was let go by that employer after just a few months. Our clientele greatly preferred talking to her over me because like them, she was young, single and she also had a part-time weekend job tending bar at a popular club, which made her way cooler than a middle-aged married guy who didn't even drink.

I did enjoy plenty of success in my career and never felt that it was harmed in any way by being a man. The incidents of gender-related friction were more than a little ironic and that's how I have regarded them. All they did was to give me material for interesting stories to tell to colleagues and friends.

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Speaking as someone with professional experience in this field, I can add that there is indeed female-on-male domestic violence (often when the male is the adult offspring of the female), as well as female-on-female DV and male-on-male DV. These situations do exist; almost every DV worker has encountered them. They do, however, represent a small stream compared to the vast tsunami of male-on-female domestic violence cases that every DV agency is inundated with over the course of a year.

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And for that, Severen13, we thank you, because it provides great comfort during the nanosecond-long period of of butthurt that represents what most of us men experience over this issue of anti-male bigotry.

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The old men who have sent thousands upon thousands of young men to die in senseless wars over the decades have done much greater harm to the male of the species. They represent a much bigger threat to men and should be by far the bigger source of concern.

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They need to just "man-up" and deal with it.

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Your description of what is behind that link has ensured that nobody will actually click on it...

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Personally, I liked Peter Davison.

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It's short.

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It's possible. People today forget that 20 years ago, being a single dad was pretty revolutionary. I was certainly the only full-time single dad I knew. I had people telling me that I should give the boys to their mothers. Never mind that one was a drunken felon (my Ex-wife) and the other was gone (my Sister), babies belong with their Mommies.

Which is not to say that I didn't play my cards for everything they could get me. I worked my profs and TAs all the time, and there are several classes that I would not have passed had I not.

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That would explain a great deal, now wouldn't it?

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Damn....they found out! The shame of it all.....

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Bruce Willis?

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