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Speaking of trans people and bathrooms:

Nex Benedict, News, Deadnaming the Dead and Bathroom Panics

Take a breath before you even think of clicking.

https://pervertjustice.substack.com/p/nex-benedict-news-deadnaming-the

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Makes me think of two trans kids I know who have to face this. One is probably in an ok place for being out, and one I literally fear for every damn day. Makes me want to throw up. Poor baby in this story. What the hell is wrong with the people who taught those girls to hate like this?

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I just had to scrub someone's comment this morning at the blog i moderate, for reposting an anti-trans tweet from some crazy white person that racist white people keep voting for.

Because I needed the reminder that 80 million adults in this country hate me as a baseline metric. On a day I went in for a surgery with some miserable prep. Didn't need to see that retweet today. Neither did anyone else, pretty much ever. So I deleted it.

This is not a criticism, but I feel roughly the same way about the prospect of reading that link right now.

On the other hand, I do appreciate you. I just can't right now. Carry on.

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I'm so sorry you're afflicted by these shitheads. We love and support you. I hope your procedure goes well and you recover fast.

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So much love to you honey. Do not worry about not reading the link. If we do not take care of ourselves, we have no hope of caring for others.

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Holy shit. This one is rough.

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I am gutted. Totally destroyed...and in an hour and a half or so I need to put on at least a partial happy face to host a YT stream. Ugh.

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This article is every one of my worst nightmare fears, coalesced together on the page. That poor child's last moments must have been terrifying. I can't.

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Hey, just thought I would check in with you.

If you need to talk, just e-mail me @ my name (no spaces), server = google.com

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Look for an email from atxsupermom

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I'll do that, thanks.

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I came here to make sure you were aware of this. First person I thought of who could write about this.

https://twitter.com/CraigNi40397745/status/1759665258979893634

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Thanks for this. That tweet didn't exist when I published my first story, and though the Daily Kos piece linked in the tweet did, it had not been indexed by Google yet. I very much appreciate sharing sources here.

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I wasn't sure if you were aware yet of the entire situation, and I knew you'd be the correct person to write about this.

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I am so fucking horrified by this.

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I'm just beyond horrified.

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The irony in all of this is that if trans women start going into men's rooms to pee, the RWNJs going to freak the fuck out about that. A lot of women would be freaked out if they saw a trans man using the ladies room.

I was always very androgynous looking, and I remember in the 1980s I was at a country club, and I went to pee, and this very loud woman in a floral, Laura Ashley dress said "hey, you're not allowed...Oh, I thought you were a man." I was DYING to say "that's OK, I thought YOU were a couch. That dress is hideous, sis."

There's a bathroom I like to use in a restaurant at the local beach that is unisex. There are no urinals, it's just all stalls. As far as I know, nobody has been raped or murdered there. Problem solved!

Of course we'll probably get Nikki Haley coming out with her "can't we all agree that it's wrong to murder trans people? Can't we start there"? Everyone knows shunning is very effective for a few decades, until people realize that trans people are no different than the rest of us.

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Forcing trans people to use their AGAB facilities would actually make it EASIER for cis men perverts to invade women's spaces. Because trans men exist, and lots of them are muscly hairy dudes who pass as cis men without a second thought.

So, if trans men are being forced to use women's facilities, why would perverts bother to dress as trans women? Why wouldn't they just walk in, and claim to be a trans man if they're challenged? Be a lot easier.

Imagine being that transmisogynist and bad faith, that you claim forcing trans women into men's facilities is anything but blatant bullshit.

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RWNJs HAVE to have something to freak out over. It doesn't matter how stupid or illogical it is.

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You so should have said that.

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Unfortunately I was raised with manners, and to mind my own business. I do wish I'd said it, though. :-)

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Oh god, I remember those Laura Ashley dresses. They made everyone look like a middle-aged church lady, including teenagers.

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My first thought when I saw this young woman was "why do you want to dress like a couch"? She was probably no older than 30, but looked 60 in that dress.

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If you need to talk, my e-mail is just my name at the gmail thingy. Dotcom, of course.

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The point of their profession is to provide a growth medium for advertising, a host for the all-devouring parasite called marketing, which needs the nutrients provided by journalism to grow and thrive because it is not, all appearances notwithstanding, epiphytic.

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Thank you for the "QTs" comment! I've been calling our rainbow QTs for a couple years now, but nobody in my circle has joined me. (The best alternative I've heard is "skittles".)

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Absolutely NOT the man for the job! We have enough damage to people for their personal preferences and live to go around.

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The thing about eliminationist rhetoric is that the people who you're eliminating will see it and may decide to eliminate you first.

Just saying.

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Now if only we could get the same response for conferences, businesses, etc in Florida today as we got in 2017 for NC.

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As has been said, there are some states (NC, FL, SC, AL, MS TX plus...) where when birds fly over those states they fly upside down because the birds know there's nothing there worth shitting on.

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I agree that every trans person and trans supporter should poop outside... on Mark Robinson's lawn, his porch, his car, in his pool, and everything else he owns.

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Religion as an excuse for hatred. Stupid people can't see how evil they are. The end

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Thanks for the thorough recap of HB2’s disastrous effects on North Carolina, where I lived when it was passed and where I (somewhat inexplicably) still live. Another casualty of this hateful law: Governor Pat McCrory, who lost his reelection bid in 2016 even though Trump carried the state. McCrory cried “fraud” and didn’t concede for weeks. What’s he doing these days? Why, he’s co-chair of No Labels, of course.

One thing Josh Stein has going for him is the guy who whipped McCrory’s ass, termed-out but still popular Gov Roy Cooper, who has never lost an election. I saw Gov Cooper at a live Lovett or Leave It show back in October, and he’s got some oratorical chops. Wouldn’t be surprised if he challenges Thom Thillis (sic) in 2026. And he’ll do whatever he can for Josh Stein.

Otherwise we are mightily fucked, because Robinson is dangerous.

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It's a long game. If trans people are caught urinating, let alone defecating in public, they can be officially labelled sex criminals. See, trans people ARE perverts!

Fucking disgusting.

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CAN Dems make a case with such a foul, unreconstructed electorate? I don't see how anything a Democrat says, given how the party is WELL associated with vulnerable minorities, stops this hatred? This bastard is elected already, after all.

How do you convince bigots of the basic humanity of trans people?

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This guy doesn't even have enough self control to push away from the dinner table, let alone govern.

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If he keeps up the good work the Klan may actually let him join someday (probably not).

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nope

#unpleasable

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We have neutral bathrooms in CA. Just make them that. I can safely say that having had a transgender friend, the place most fraught with fear for her was the bathroom. If it wasn’t neutral she would hold it or literally drive home.

Visiting my uncle late 80’s NYC and encountered a transgender woman in the lav who was mortified and apologetic for being there. I assured her that it was no bother.

And that’s just using a toilet, the constant fear when you are transgender.

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In Seattle circa Grunge there were any number of bars where women pissed in the Boy's room b/c the line was shorter. And ya know what? Nobody cared. The bathrooms in the Comet Tavern were the last place anyone wanted to fuck. Think open septic tank.

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IKR?!! I use the available bathroom. It’s so common these days.

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I can see the campaign slogan now:

Vote Robinson

Proudly returning the tradition of hookworm to the south!

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I never understood all this nonsense about bathrooms. What do they think goes on in there? It’s not Studio 54. There are stalls. No one cares what you’re doing in there. You do what you gotta do, wash your hands, maybe a mirror check, and get out. Whatever fantasies they’re projecting onto the space says nothing about trans people and everything about them. Fucking weirdos. And no concern whatsoever about the safety of trans men in men’s bathrooms. It all boils down to who they define as men, what they think men are capable of (all manner of horrible things because all men are amoral primal beasts I guess) and the need to curb their behavior. These people have such a devastatingly negative, brutal, ugly view of humanity.

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I have used men's bathrooms - only when absolutely necessary - for 40 years. Have never had a problem, but I am a straight white female...

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Catholic high school in the 80s all of us girls were taught how to be protective of our virtue, and ways to try to shame boys into not raping us, while dressing as not quite nuns, but very covered up and modest. Guess how many lessons boys got on consent and not raping anyone?

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In 6th grade in 1966, we got separated for talks by the nuns. We boys were told that no girl would ever do that unless forced to by a boy.

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The only time we got anything close to truth was from our biology teachers. They were a married couple who would use very careful read between the lines here kids!! language to try to encourage us to go to more trusted sources or ignore Church doctrine on all subjects sexual. Mr Bio would remind the boys during annual sex ed that he was always respectful of Mrs Bio's boundaries, and they had been very happily and "actively" married for 25 plus years, something that does not happen if you do not respect girls. He was not allowed to come out and say "Assholes!! Don't rape!!", but could give marriage advice.

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Fundamentalists of all stripes appear to think all men are incapable of controlling themselves around women. It's usually women's fault somehow so I guess trans women at least get equity in that department.

Fucking sickos, man. Every one.

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Trans women also suffer the same wage gap as cis women.

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Yup. I heard an interview once with that creeper Dennis Prager where he pretty much espoused the same view, men are incapable of controlling themselves and must be treated as such. Women should know this so anything bad that happens is obviously the women’s fault. Such nihilistic bullshit.

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Ah, ol' Dennis is so wholesome. Of course, he also said it's cool to beat off to anime characters of kids, so...there's that.

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Ugh, he’s so gross.

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But, if men can't control themselves, that means they're animals, not human beings, because human beings can control themselves.

If men are animals rather than human beings, that means they don't have souls.

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So charming isn’t it?

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