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SkeptiKC's avatar

My oldest daughter dated a couple of young men who are Black before she got married. I remember how much I resented the judgmental gaze of too damned many people when we'd all be out together for an evening meal in one of the local restaurants. I had foolishly believed when she was small that by the time she was an adult the skin tone of the individuals she felt affection for wouldn't matter.

My stupid idealism gets me into trouble every damned time. But I will be damned if I'm going to give up the belief that ONE day this demented gawd damned species will get its' act together and dispense with all of this divisive, destructive bigotry.

Clearly I am a fucking idiot.

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House of the Blue Lights's avatar

You don't need to go to Paris or Southeast Asia to find out how difficult it is traveling as a mixed race family. All you need to do is drive I94 in Indiana or up the Michigan Shore , where you will get seated next to the kitchen at chain restaurants, and then ignored, assuming you can get seated at all, have your (nonwhite) husband confronted about whether those are his children, refused rooms at motels, have service people ask you "does he speak English" (my ex was ABC- American Born Chinese), asked "are you together?" (no we just bizarrely found ourselves in the same car with two children who look oddly like us) and constantly stared at in amazement by all and sundry.

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