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Wrt to the WSJ tab-- I worried like a demon over my boy, especially when he was in late elementary school/ middle school. He was totally sucked into the toxic male gaming ecosystem, spending his time sharing Pepe memes on Discord, checked out socially, on screens constantly. And then he went to wilderness camp and learned to play music and everything changed. He quit gaming completely, and threw himself into making music and being outdoors. Now he's a freshman at Oberlin Conservatory, a seasoned adventurer, and a solid farmer.

Last night we had a difficult conversation about Xmas, because my extremely difficult mom is not only coming to visit (my Jewish household, where we will be done celebrating our holidays) but has been escalating her demands. She wants Xmas to be raucous! with mummers! and wild boar! and a pinata! and singing! and parlor games! and tequila! I actually live in reality so I've been pushing back on her crazier requests but I did have a good idea yesterday, which is to get the StoryCorps materials & spend Xmas interviewing my parents.

My boy was dragging his feet about it and I said, "I have protected you from your grandmother your whole life but you are a man now and I need to you have my back on this." And he said yes! So the moral of the story is I think patience, and love, and just keep casting around for the thing that's going to make your poor confused boy want to grow up and be a man who can take responsibility for himself and others.

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