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"60-70 percent of the women I know have been either molested, or sexually assaulted"

I actually think that's lowballing it. A few years ago, feeling curious after some Massive Rectocele Arrangement declared that rape/SA stats were "pathetically overblown", I informally surveyed women I knew.

Limiting the definition of "sexual assault" to "unwanted physical contact of a sexual nature" I asked online and offline acquaintances, from a variety of backgrounds, nationality, age, sexuality, etc.:

1. Have you ever been sexually assaulted?

2. Has it happened more than once?

3. Did you know the perpetrator?

4. Did you report it to the police?

5. Was the perpetrator prosecuted?

6. Did the assault leave you with persistent mental or physical health issues?

Of 87 women (including my wife and I) only one said she'd never suffered any type of sexual assault, only sexual harassment. Roughly two-thirds had been victimised more than once.

Virtually every survivor knew her attacker, only ten police reports were ever made (from roughly 300 total assaults), and only one ended in a conviction (community service and an alcohol awareness class). The attack had a male witness, which almost certainly accounted for the conviction.

Most of my acquaintances reported lasting psychological symptoms. They ranged from social anxiety, and agoraphobia, to self-harm, depression and C-PTSD. Some were unlucky enough to contract STIs

But, y'know, it could be worse, we could be poor ickle menz, who only rape because the ~hypergamous females~ ask for it 😭

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"Men are afraid that women will laugh at them. Women are afraid that men will kill them.”

-Margaret Atwood

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Can you imagine the outcry if the type of offence was swapped?

“Unfortunately, much of the feminist ‘war on murder’ has conflated premeditated murder with muddled, often alcohol-fueled, killings that involve miscommunication.”

Or

“Unfortunately, much of the feminist ‘war on arson’ has conflated pyromania with muddled, often alcohol-fueled, fires that involve miscommunication.”

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Don't forget that the victim must be a young, white, modestly-dressed Christian virgin, walking home from church.

Anyone else is asking for it

/s

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Exactly. Rape might as well be legal, given the abysmal conviction rates. US:

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England & Wales:

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Should be re-titled "GOP's View on Women."

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Don't any of you folks realize that this is satire? What a bunch of wanks. smh

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lmao it's satire.

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Elizabeth Smart is rightly named. She has endured the unendurable and has recovered to be a beacon of sense and morality in opposition to the idiocy and immorality of the misogynists, the rapists and their enablers, not to mention the harsh standards for women of some religions. Smart is a hero of mine. Thanks so much for finding and posting this.

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Assuming her husband allows it.

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I'm not normally one to victim blame, but in this case it seems appropriate. If you don't want to be falsely accused of rape, there are some simple steps even the most inebriated frat boy could follow. 1. Don't be an asshole.2. Set clear expectations about what you want out of any sexual relationship. You'd be surprised how many college-aged women are DTF without the entanglements of a relationship, provided you're clear about what you want and revisit rule #1 regularly. 3. Be respectful. Yes, this includes keeping your mouth shut afterward. 4. Get to know the person you want to have sex with well enough to determine her mental stability. The process of reporting and prosecuting a rape is so humiliating and invasive, only a deeply unstable person would make up being raped.

As for avoiding the far more likely scenario of being accused of rape because you actually did rape someone, that's even easier to avoid! Don't rape!

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'If I have to put up with it, so does everyone else.'

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The ex and I used to chuckle over this joke when she worked for Ag Canada at their seed testing lab - it was just before rapeseed was PCed into being canola.

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Looks like Pence is letting his tie hang low. These fucking people.

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I should not have read this while eating lunch as I literally choked on my chicken. I can't even with these motherfuckers anymore.

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