This is the only upside. Ending this bullshite about 'incompatibility' with the fetus to the father is rotten nonsense doublespeak ie no such thing. The Americans who are POC will be the majority, and not soon enough. The sooner we forever remove this white purity nonsense the better. Once the whites are a minority, they will have to deal with family and neighbours who aren't white and wise up to their blind hate. Not too many want the Roger Stone Military Space Force Camps rounding up their own brown grandkiddies and taken for enforced garbage island colonization.
I had a placental abruption that resulted in a premature birth. Fortunately for me (and for my child) I was far enough along that she survived and grew into a wonderful, fully-functioning adult person. Also, I'm white and middle class and not poor and Indigenous. So there's that.
Point being, placental abruptions happen, people. You don't have to be taking drugs of any kind. Pregnancy is generally a crapshoot. It's a miracle anyone manages to complete a full gestational cycle. The things I saw when we were in that NICU were, ah, eye-opening.
for what it is worth, i believe that you will make the right choice for your baby, and do it with all the love. whatever that choice is, know we are all here for you and your family
Precariat - a new word for me--thank you! Precarious proletariat. From Wikipedia:
The hallmark of the precariat class is the condition of lack of job security, including intermittent employment or underemployment and the resultant precarious existence.A Google search turned up a 2015 VICE article ( https://www.vice.com/en/art... ), which contained this paragraph:
In spite of the obvious unrest spanning the globe, most of the mainstream political parties worldwide have failed to address these issues in any meaningful way. "They're still opting to try to appeal to the concept of the middle class and are failing to understand the precariat," [Guy] Standing said when VICE spoke to him a week ago, and that proved eerily prescient this week, when Justin Trudeau announced a tax break for the middle class.This is what annoys me about Democratic candidates' frequent calls for "rebuilding the middle class". I still vote for them, but I think the first thing we should do is rebuild/rescue the poor, the precariat.
Wikipedia also says the precariat "[exist] without predictability or security, affecting material or psychological welfare". I would add their physical welfare, especially health. See Robert Sapolsky's excellent Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers, which posits that the stresses of being poor and lower-class result in the bodies of the poor being, unconsciously, in constant "flight-or-fight" or similar states. The hormones activated by these states, while beneficial during the short-term events they were "intended" for, are dangerous and damaging to the body if active continuously.
[Going off on tangents, obviously ... I'll stop here!]
I don't know you. I don't know if you know this, but Rh 'disease' is a talking point in certain circles. (ie The woman's body has a way of taking care of it, if it's rape).
Since we don't know anything about the father, or why the doctor that reported her to law enforcement wouldn't have bothered to test for this standard prenatal blood test, it can sound 'dog whistley' even when not intended to.
I'm sorry if I came across as accusing and angry. That is unfair to you, especially when I don't know if your intent was anything but clinical. You're correct when saying there's a good chance she didn't have pre-natal care.
I had this Rh 'disease' question put to me when I miscarried, because of my husband, but there was a whole 'nother conversation going on in the seemingly innocent question. It triggered me, and I am sorry for my poor response and word choice.
There's a very heavy-handed YA novel titled "Only Ever Yours" (Louise O'Neill) set in a dystopian future (not dissimilar from the dystopian present), where artificially engineered women are awarded to young men following some sort of Hunger-Games-Meets-The-Bachelor competition. Following selective breeding for male children only, they are incinerated on their fortieth birthdays.
. The costs of travel, taking off work, and the procedure itself make abortion access all but impossible for many poor and lowe-middle-class people to access.
As long as activist, extreme right wing ideologue magats with lifetime appointments, get to define undue burdens, women voters will always suffer.
You can't use my kidney after I die without my living consent, but anybody can use my uterus any old time they want. And half the doctors I talk to about never wanting to be pregnant will tell me no, they won't perform a tubal ligation, again, in case somebody else wants to use my uterus regardless of how I, the uterus-haver, feel about that. Neat. This is fine.
So it didn’t go our way. Anyone who saw my post from last week about my wife and I learning our unborn daughter had abnormal findings on ultrasound. We had an amniocentesis done. They told us 15-20% of these abnormalities correlate with congenital/genetic error. The results came back Monday. She has an extra chromosome on one location and is missing another. Highly indicative of developmental delays, brain and cranial abnormalities. Possible seizure disorder. This was in addition to defective aorta and kidney cysts. In any event, an impossible position. We could not attempt to put any child through what awaited her. Because we were 23 weeks along, we had just days to spare her that. In short, the doctors and nurses were amazing. I can’t fathom how people could manage this situation in a state controlled by insane “pro-life” wingnuts. And if a conservative ever suggests to me that woman abuse abortion by using it as an alternative to birth control, fire will erupt from my eyes and incinerate them. This was simply a horrifying experience.
This is the only upside. Ending this bullshite about 'incompatibility' with the fetus to the father is rotten nonsense doublespeak ie no such thing. The Americans who are POC will be the majority, and not soon enough. The sooner we forever remove this white purity nonsense the better. Once the whites are a minority, they will have to deal with family and neighbours who aren't white and wise up to their blind hate. Not too many want the Roger Stone Military Space Force Camps rounding up their own brown grandkiddies and taken for enforced garbage island colonization.
What are you babbling about? You've never heard of Rh?
I had a placental abruption that resulted in a premature birth. Fortunately for me (and for my child) I was far enough along that she survived and grew into a wonderful, fully-functioning adult person. Also, I'm white and middle class and not poor and Indigenous. So there's that.
Point being, placental abruptions happen, people. You don't have to be taking drugs of any kind. Pregnancy is generally a crapshoot. It's a miracle anyone manages to complete a full gestational cycle. The things I saw when we were in that NICU were, ah, eye-opening.
Take nothing for granted.
for what it is worth, i believe that you will make the right choice for your baby, and do it with all the love. whatever that choice is, know we are all here for you and your family
Precariat - a new word for me--thank you! Precarious proletariat. From Wikipedia:
The hallmark of the precariat class is the condition of lack of job security, including intermittent employment or underemployment and the resultant precarious existence.A Google search turned up a 2015 VICE article ( https://www.vice.com/en/art... ), which contained this paragraph:
In spite of the obvious unrest spanning the globe, most of the mainstream political parties worldwide have failed to address these issues in any meaningful way. "They're still opting to try to appeal to the concept of the middle class and are failing to understand the precariat," [Guy] Standing said when VICE spoke to him a week ago, and that proved eerily prescient this week, when Justin Trudeau announced a tax break for the middle class.This is what annoys me about Democratic candidates' frequent calls for "rebuilding the middle class". I still vote for them, but I think the first thing we should do is rebuild/rescue the poor, the precariat.
Wikipedia also says the precariat "[exist] without predictability or security, affecting material or psychological welfare". I would add their physical welfare, especially health. See Robert Sapolsky's excellent Why Zebras Don't Get Ulcers, which posits that the stresses of being poor and lower-class result in the bodies of the poor being, unconsciously, in constant "flight-or-fight" or similar states. The hormones activated by these states, while beneficial during the short-term events they were "intended" for, are dangerous and damaging to the body if active continuously.
[Going off on tangents, obviously ... I'll stop here!]
I still refuse to promote infighting vs kids. That's stupid can self defeating.
I don't know you. I don't know if you know this, but Rh 'disease' is a talking point in certain circles. (ie The woman's body has a way of taking care of it, if it's rape).
Since we don't know anything about the father, or why the doctor that reported her to law enforcement wouldn't have bothered to test for this standard prenatal blood test, it can sound 'dog whistley' even when not intended to.
I'm sorry if I came across as accusing and angry. That is unfair to you, especially when I don't know if your intent was anything but clinical. You're correct when saying there's a good chance she didn't have pre-natal care.
I had this Rh 'disease' question put to me when I miscarried, because of my husband, but there was a whole 'nother conversation going on in the seemingly innocent question. It triggered me, and I am sorry for my poor response and word choice.
There's a very heavy-handed YA novel titled "Only Ever Yours" (Louise O'Neill) set in a dystopian future (not dissimilar from the dystopian present), where artificially engineered women are awarded to young men following some sort of Hunger-Games-Meets-The-Bachelor competition. Following selective breeding for male children only, they are incinerated on their fortieth birthdays.
Blanket party?
Swimming lessons.
With concrete overshoes? Lead snorkel?
They LIKE hurting women. Period.
Except the people who hate women.
. The costs of travel, taking off work, and the procedure itself make abortion access all but impossible for many poor and lowe-middle-class people to access.
As long as activist, extreme right wing ideologue magats with lifetime appointments, get to define undue burdens, women voters will always suffer.
You can't use my kidney after I die without my living consent, but anybody can use my uterus any old time they want. And half the doctors I talk to about never wanting to be pregnant will tell me no, they won't perform a tubal ligation, again, in case somebody else wants to use my uterus regardless of how I, the uterus-haver, feel about that. Neat. This is fine.
So it didn’t go our way. Anyone who saw my post from last week about my wife and I learning our unborn daughter had abnormal findings on ultrasound. We had an amniocentesis done. They told us 15-20% of these abnormalities correlate with congenital/genetic error. The results came back Monday. She has an extra chromosome on one location and is missing another. Highly indicative of developmental delays, brain and cranial abnormalities. Possible seizure disorder. This was in addition to defective aorta and kidney cysts. In any event, an impossible position. We could not attempt to put any child through what awaited her. Because we were 23 weeks along, we had just days to spare her that. In short, the doctors and nurses were amazing. I can’t fathom how people could manage this situation in a state controlled by insane “pro-life” wingnuts. And if a conservative ever suggests to me that woman abuse abortion by using it as an alternative to birth control, fire will erupt from my eyes and incinerate them. This was simply a horrifying experience.