The saga of Arkansas state Rep. Justin Harris keeps getting ... we were going to say "stranger," but no, it started out at Maximum Strange, and everything since then has simply been an accretion of new details. [contextly_sidebar id="yKEATJDMKBWF04FqWg8eVTf82BvgKn2J"]
We just brought my husband's daughter home after a 4 year custody battle with CPS, the foster parents, and my inlaws. She's been to a competent therapist and all of her behaviors are normal kid shit, especially when you take into account her genetics. Her father was a hellion at her age LOL
I lived a life of terror, anxiety, depression, and fear for over 4 years while helping my husband fight the illegal adoption of his daughter. Everyone who isn't in the know like we are swore that I had to be lying. That our story didn't make sense because of COURSE they would have given her to her father if her mother was found guilty of neglect unless he was a scumbag. Thanks to the preponderance of evidence standard, our lives were mercilessly dragged through the mud and anything even as inconsequential as a FB post was submitted in court as proof that we were "bisexual, alcoholic, sexual deviants" and that is an exact fucking quote. Hearsay evidence is admissible too! It wasn't until a CPS supervisor made the fatal mistake of admitting in an email that they had fucked up every way possible and pure luck that I happened to have the email of a state admin that enabled us to bring her home.
People told us we were selfish assholes for wanting to keep her safe at home with us instead of letting her fundy fosters adopt her. Fuck that noise.
Final visit is OVER. Worker said she would love to get updates but understands if we want to close this chapter in our lives. She said this was one of her best cases in years.
The term doesn't bother me since that was what the adoption was suppose to be. This was suppose to be a permeant home for these girls. What bothers me is the fact that this guy didn't understand what that meant and what his obligations were. He told those girls this was their "forever" home and he dumps them in 6 months. People adopt children and for that matter pets on whims and feel they can discard them at will. It is shameful.
“We would have never knowingly put a child in harm’s way, and anyone who knows us knows that,” Harris said."
So he owns and runs a preschool and didn't think that passing off the children he had made a commitment to love and care for in their "forever home" could be harmful to those children? Even without the physical abuse, sending kids from home to home is extremely harmful to their emotional health, especially one who is already fragile and has been the victim of abuse. When we got our dog from the Humane Society we had to go through an extensive interview to make sure we were a good match with the dog we chose, and were given a lecture on how important it is to be sure because repeatedly being shifted around is harmful to the dog's emotional health and ability to form positive attachments and relationships. How did he and his wife miss that with a child or think what they did wasn't harmful?
Its all in the language and sounds so nice- he regifted the girls. Like the old patriarchal way of owning the women and children and gifting them to who ever they wanted to.
The his story of child sexual abuse - really great article.
Armstrong divided history into the “Age of Permitted Abuse”, which went on for thousands of years until the 1800's, and the “Age of Denied Abuse”, which went on until the 1980’s. The “Age of Concealed Abuse”, from the ‘80’s to present day will be added here.
For thousands of years, during the long, dark Age of PERMITTED Abuse,children were considered chattel and men had absolute power to use and abuse them at will. Children could be bartered, sold, battered, mutilated, starved or raped without recourse. Men were permitted sexual access to their own and to marginalized children but had to stay away from each other’s. Women had no legal right to their children and no power to protect them; they had been made completely dependent on men."
"Forever home" was a staple of modern adoption. It sounded like a great phrase that was supposed to signify permanancy and love to the kids. It was used for ours. But our volunteer state appointed advocate told us a few years later, that they were abandoning the phrase. Because adopted kids knew there was no such thing as a forever home, so it sounded like lying. I mean, the bio home was supposed to be the ultimate forever home, and look what happened there? Not to mention if a disruption happened (and some are justified), how forever is that?
Why assume the kids were sexual predators?
We just brought my husband's daughter home after a 4 year custody battle with CPS, the foster parents, and my inlaws. She's been to a competent therapist and all of her behaviors are normal kid shit, especially when you take into account her genetics. Her father was a hellion at her age LOL
I lived a life of terror, anxiety, depression, and fear for over 4 years while helping my husband fight the illegal adoption of his daughter. Everyone who isn't in the know like we are swore that I had to be lying. That our story didn't make sense because of COURSE they would have given her to her father if her mother was found guilty of neglect unless he was a scumbag. Thanks to the preponderance of evidence standard, our lives were mercilessly dragged through the mud and anything even as inconsequential as a FB post was submitted in court as proof that we were "bisexual, alcoholic, sexual deviants" and that is an exact fucking quote. Hearsay evidence is admissible too! It wasn't until a CPS supervisor made the fatal mistake of admitting in an email that they had fucked up every way possible and pure luck that I happened to have the email of a state admin that enabled us to bring her home.
People told us we were selfish assholes for wanting to keep her safe at home with us instead of letting her fundy fosters adopt her. Fuck that noise.
Final visit is OVER. Worker said she would love to get updates but understands if we want to close this chapter in our lives. She said this was one of her best cases in years.
Twat-waffle
It's actually a very common term in foster-to-adopt circles.
The term doesn't bother me since that was what the adoption was suppose to be. This was suppose to be a permeant home for these girls. What bothers me is the fact that this guy didn't understand what that meant and what his obligations were. He told those girls this was their "forever" home and he dumps them in 6 months. People adopt children and for that matter pets on whims and feel they can discard them at will. It is shameful.
Maybe fore people who aren't you know, psychotic. This guy meanwhile seemed to think they were his accessories.
You win the internet today and for all time.
Darn right. Otherwise, what's the point??
“We would have never knowingly put a child in harm’s way, and anyone who knows us knows that,” Harris said."
So he owns and runs a preschool and didn't think that passing off the children he had made a commitment to love and care for in their "forever home" could be harmful to those children? Even without the physical abuse, sending kids from home to home is extremely harmful to their emotional health, especially one who is already fragile and has been the victim of abuse. When we got our dog from the Humane Society we had to go through an extensive interview to make sure we were a good match with the dog we chose, and were given a lecture on how important it is to be sure because repeatedly being shifted around is harmful to the dog's emotional health and ability to form positive attachments and relationships. How did he and his wife miss that with a child or think what they did wasn't harmful?
Octopirage -I'm gonna go with Ferlonda on this one . And I just wish you could do it , hell , I'd hold him down for you. GLADLY .
Remember the Baby Thief Georgia Tann.
and the dark side of adoption- puppy pound.
http://poundpuplegacy.org/a...
Its all about him - self serving.
Its all in the language and sounds so nice- he regifted the girls. Like the old patriarchal way of owning the women and children and gifting them to who ever they wanted to.
The his story of child sexual abuse - really great article.
http://www.dailykos.com/sto...
Armstrong divided history into the “Age of Permitted Abuse”, which went on for thousands of years until the 1800's, and the “Age of Denied Abuse”, which went on until the 1980’s. The “Age of Concealed Abuse”, from the ‘80’s to present day will be added here.
For thousands of years, during the long, dark Age of PERMITTED Abuse,children were considered chattel and men had absolute power to use and abuse them at will. Children could be bartered, sold, battered, mutilated, starved or raped without recourse. Men were permitted sexual access to their own and to marginalized children but had to stay away from each other’s. Women had no legal right to their children and no power to protect them; they had been made completely dependent on men."
"Forever home" was a staple of modern adoption. It sounded like a great phrase that was supposed to signify permanancy and love to the kids. It was used for ours. But our volunteer state appointed advocate told us a few years later, that they were abandoning the phrase. Because adopted kids knew there was no such thing as a forever home, so it sounded like lying. I mean, the bio home was supposed to be the ultimate forever home, and look what happened there? Not to mention if a disruption happened (and some are justified), how forever is that?