I hate the concept of tipping, but of course I do it because I’m not going to punish some poor person just trying to earn a living because I’m pissed at the system. And every time I’m calculating in my head “divide by 10 and double” and come up with something like $8.45, I tell myself “Don’t be a jerk, just round it up to $10. Or even $15. An extra few bucks is nothing to you, but a nice fat tip might make someone else’s evening a little less shitty.”
Get the word out: BOYCOTT OLIVE GARDEN restaurants until the corporation pays minimum wage to all its employees who aren't paid at least a minimum wage. As for sexual harassment those being sexually harassed need to file complaints. If it's physical, FILE A POLICE REPORT!
And in due time they become the creepy old man who, despite making sure everyone knows he's picking up the tab, will leave the kind of tip that embarrasses the rest of the dinner party. I've both waited on and dined with these types (some I'm ashamed to admit are male relatives) and when dining always tried to slip the server extra $. Once, my FIL (a notorious crude rude old man) caught me doing this and railed about my "extravagance" all the way home. After this I was adamant to my husband that I would no longer dine out with his parents, and if so, I would continue to leave a decent tip for our servers.
Restaurants should be required to pay a fair wage for all servers and staff who do their job as described. Maybe we need a distinction between restaurants and “performance proprietors” like Hooters who blend sexism and capitalism by requiring women to be objectified and harassed while serving chicken wings. Either way, servers should be entitled to a fair wage and a safe work environment where they are protected from harassment.
Deja vu.My father was a lovely man, financially comfortable, and a cheap tipper.Chagrined, my brother and I would kick in some cash at the end of a meal when he wasn't looking.I'll never get it.
Our local TeeVee news had a segment this week about long waits at full-service, sit down restaurants now that TX has 'reopened'. Both the restaurant owner they interviewed and the industry spokeslady admitted that the "labor shortage" they're experiencing is because people left for better I can't imagine why people aren't lining up for those sweet $2.13/hour server jobs!
You cannot move a book from the late 1800s and try to make it apply to current styles. And trying to update it to please the ones who think that the n word is never appropriate will take the message out of the story.
I literally compared it to a book written about slavery slightly before HF.
The core message of Huck Finn is that if you look up to heaven and declare yourself good and are not racist in your heart, then you are not racist. It is a bullshit message. It was then, it is now.
Oh, and if later you almost get your friend lynched, well you really still are a good person. Please read the entire book, not the excerpts. The two chapters where lynching is played for laughs would probably stick with you if you read it again.
The core message of UTC, written at the same time, is that good people can not be part of a slave society without being part of its cruelty.
All the other racists with "good hearts" did a wonderful job of absorbing "the message of the story". Seriously, actually read the books, do not just preen about your Righteous Tolerance and White Person Understanding of The N Word.
Because Huck and Jim were the only ones consistently acting with honesty, loyalty, and kindness. And the book pointed out the callousness of almost every White person in the book
Yeah, you would have been One Of The Good Ones. Ahhhh.. So you are one of the good ones. And honestly, all love to your dad, that was good. But it does not excuse the book.
But you would not be one of the good ones because it was not really possible. That feeling you have is why HF is popular among white people, and is *the most taught book in American high schools*. All those white people get to read the work then feel good that there were so many just really good Confederates, and all those black people have it forced down their throats.
In contrast, UTC focused on showing black people as human. It uses the n-word as the hate word that it was EVEN AT THAT TIME.( Of course Twain served in the war and came from a slave-owning family while Stowe was an abolitionist.)
Have you not read Uncle Tom's Cabin?
The core message of that book is that you can not participate in a system and still be a good person.
The soothing balm of Huck Finn and its use as the most taught book in American high schools has played a role in The Nobel Cause and The Big Lie that slavery was gosh not that bad.
Can you imagine if the most taught book in Germany about WWII was from the point of view of a young Nazi boy who had a nice childhood, was friends with an escaping Jewish man, and decided to risk a Jew but it came out OK? If they literally named the Jewish character K*** Jacob? At the end the Nazi boys' odious friend was hurt and the Jewish person risked themselves to help the kid. Then! Viola! magic! Jewish person is saved.
And you could read the book and think, "Gosh alot of people died, but I would have been one of the good nice Nazis. That whole Nazi time was not so bad. People really could make healthy, happy connections."
Late '70's, early 80's. As you said, there was coke everywhere all the time. I honestly didn't do much of it there...coke was $100+ a gram back then. I mean, people would cut us lines because we were fresh meat. We were broke rockstars. I did most of my cocaine when I came back to Chicago.
I hope you can understand why it makes me crazy. Not that it exists but that is assigned in high schools. And it is the Most Read Book about the Civil war - the coming of age of a confederate white boy.
were you throwing punches? screaming abuse at patrons in the car park? what kind of violence ensued? /s
Yep, "Kenwickian"
I hate the concept of tipping, but of course I do it because I’m not going to punish some poor person just trying to earn a living because I’m pissed at the system. And every time I’m calculating in my head “divide by 10 and double” and come up with something like $8.45, I tell myself “Don’t be a jerk, just round it up to $10. Or even $15. An extra few bucks is nothing to you, but a nice fat tip might make someone else’s evening a little less shitty.”
Yeah. I feel so ashamed.
Oh, FFS.
Get the word out: BOYCOTT OLIVE GARDEN restaurants until the corporation pays minimum wage to all its employees who aren't paid at least a minimum wage. As for sexual harassment those being sexually harassed need to file complaints. If it's physical, FILE A POLICE REPORT!
And in due time they become the creepy old man who, despite making sure everyone knows he's picking up the tab, will leave the kind of tip that embarrasses the rest of the dinner party. I've both waited on and dined with these types (some I'm ashamed to admit are male relatives) and when dining always tried to slip the server extra $. Once, my FIL (a notorious crude rude old man) caught me doing this and railed about my "extravagance" all the way home. After this I was adamant to my husband that I would no longer dine out with his parents, and if so, I would continue to leave a decent tip for our servers.
It's all that winking.
Restaurants should be required to pay a fair wage for all servers and staff who do their job as described. Maybe we need a distinction between restaurants and “performance proprietors” like Hooters who blend sexism and capitalism by requiring women to be objectified and harassed while serving chicken wings. Either way, servers should be entitled to a fair wage and a safe work environment where they are protected from harassment.
Deja vu.My father was a lovely man, financially comfortable, and a cheap tipper.Chagrined, my brother and I would kick in some cash at the end of a meal when he wasn't looking.I'll never get it.
Our local TeeVee news had a segment this week about long waits at full-service, sit down restaurants now that TX has 'reopened'. Both the restaurant owner they interviewed and the industry spokeslady admitted that the "labor shortage" they're experiencing is because people left for better I can't imagine why people aren't lining up for those sweet $2.13/hour server jobs!
You cannot move a book from the late 1800s and try to make it apply to current styles. And trying to update it to please the ones who think that the n word is never appropriate will take the message out of the story.
I literally compared it to a book written about slavery slightly before HF.
The core message of Huck Finn is that if you look up to heaven and declare yourself good and are not racist in your heart, then you are not racist. It is a bullshit message. It was then, it is now.
Oh, and if later you almost get your friend lynched, well you really still are a good person. Please read the entire book, not the excerpts. The two chapters where lynching is played for laughs would probably stick with you if you read it again.
The core message of UTC, written at the same time, is that good people can not be part of a slave society without being part of its cruelty.
All the other racists with "good hearts" did a wonderful job of absorbing "the message of the story". Seriously, actually read the books, do not just preen about your Righteous Tolerance and White Person Understanding of The N Word.
Because Huck and Jim were the only ones consistently acting with honesty, loyalty, and kindness. And the book pointed out the callousness of almost every White person in the book
Yeah, you would have been One Of The Good Ones. Ahhhh.. So you are one of the good ones. And honestly, all love to your dad, that was good. But it does not excuse the book.
But you would not be one of the good ones because it was not really possible. That feeling you have is why HF is popular among white people, and is *the most taught book in American high schools*. All those white people get to read the work then feel good that there were so many just really good Confederates, and all those black people have it forced down their throats.
In contrast, UTC focused on showing black people as human. It uses the n-word as the hate word that it was EVEN AT THAT TIME.( Of course Twain served in the war and came from a slave-owning family while Stowe was an abolitionist.)
Have you not read Uncle Tom's Cabin?
The core message of that book is that you can not participate in a system and still be a good person.
The soothing balm of Huck Finn and its use as the most taught book in American high schools has played a role in The Nobel Cause and The Big Lie that slavery was gosh not that bad.
Can you imagine if the most taught book in Germany about WWII was from the point of view of a young Nazi boy who had a nice childhood, was friends with an escaping Jewish man, and decided to risk a Jew but it came out OK? If they literally named the Jewish character K*** Jacob? At the end the Nazi boys' odious friend was hurt and the Jewish person risked themselves to help the kid. Then! Viola! magic! Jewish person is saved.
And you could read the book and think, "Gosh alot of people died, but I would have been one of the good nice Nazis. That whole Nazi time was not so bad. People really could make healthy, happy connections."
Yeah. That is Huck Finn only with Confederates.
Late '70's, early 80's. As you said, there was coke everywhere all the time. I honestly didn't do much of it there...coke was $100+ a gram back then. I mean, people would cut us lines because we were fresh meat. We were broke rockstars. I did most of my cocaine when I came back to Chicago.
Yes, sorry, that is the standard comparison of major American books about slavery experiences at the time.
Only no one reads UTC. And it is so historically important and more respectful of black people. I mean it is still terrible, but way less terrible.
When you can negotiate payment individually before rendering the service, who needs a tip?
I hope you can understand why it makes me crazy. Not that it exists but that is assigned in high schools. And it is the Most Read Book about the Civil war - the coming of age of a confederate white boy.
*sigh*