It's a much bigger socioeconomic question than just one chain of stores, but they are a good representative of how America has allowed everything to become so expensive that a Dollar Store really can't afford to exist without becoming a shit hole.
Insane! An ex of mine was in a mall food court once, with her young son. She looks across the way and notices a guy seated at a table, staring at her, jerking off. He must have been doing it at least for a bit because she said when she locked eyes with him he finished shortly after. Smfh! Some people are just scum
"Whereas flashers and public masturbators seem to get off from the elicitness of the act and the possibility of getting caught or humiliated themselves (or because they’re just perving on teenage girls in a mall store and are disgusting pedophiles), the Dollar Store Gooners appear to be more compelled by the degradation and humiliation of the women they go after."
Every psychology book I've ever read has noted the component of the degradation and humiliation of the victims in flashing incidents, especially ones that involve masturbation. Like rape, it is not actually about sex. It's about aggression and violence...in this case, symbolic and emotional violence rather than physical violence, but violence all the same. It is about exercising control over an unwilling victim.
The only difference now is that the creeps have themselves a little mutual admiration society going for themselves.
We need a third category of speech: speech that is not criminalized, but not permitted, either, at least not in publicly accessable spaces. Social stigma used to provide that, but the Internet nerfed shame.
I saw this in the Guardian and honestly, the first thing that came to mind was, "How soon would I see Robyn's take on this?" Well done! But this sucks that this is even a thing. What the fuck is wrong with these men?!?
What has happened to men? I'm serious. I'm 68 years old and can honestly say this kind of shit wasn't happening, at least not to the extent it seems to be now, when I was growing up in the 60s and 70s. There were creeps I'm sure but now it's out of control. So many pedophiles. So many men creeping on women and kids. So many rapists and men who commit acts of violence. It's like those kinds of men are now in the majority instead of the the few who you heard about on the news or read about in the newspaper. Wtf guys? Get your shit together. Seriously. 🤨
I am not quite your age and I have nothing but incredibly bad memories of creeping creepers when I was younger. Guys standing under a tree and jacking off at me from a distance. A guy staring at me from across a crowded room (as it happens, this room was the main reading room at the 5th Avenue branch of the New York Public Library) and rubbing his cock at me, slowly, while licking his lips. A guy who got on the E Train one night, rubbed one out, and shot his load all over the glass panel right by my face. Endless assholes on construction sites hooting “hey girlie! hey mama come on up and I’ll take care of you!” A guy at the dry cleaners asking if “the collar and cuffs match” while he accepted my drapes for cleaning. Men (lots of men) making SUCKING NOISES at me when I walked to work, or to the bodega, or home from the laundromat.
And this happened, constantly, to all of my friends. My slender, pretty, femme presenting friends. My openly butch dyke friends. Me, with my big boobs and Dick Butkiss shoulders and incipient apron belly. These men did not discriminate. They creeped on us all.
I feel like the blatant pedo crap is new… but then I think back to the hideous ad campaigns of the 1970s, featuring feathered-bang girls - none of whom looked older than 12 or 13 - wearing oil slicks of sticky pink lip gloss. And wasn’t Twiggy earlier even than that, with her stick figure, training bra breasts, and legs like a painfully skinny tween?
I dunno. I wish I were more sanguine. But I think that a LOT of men have ALWAYS been utterly horrible. ☹️
Omg! That's horrible and disgusting! Where in the world did you grow up? Maybe I just grew up in a more sheltered area? Idk, I never saw anything like you described and we were all out running the neighborhoods at all hours of the day and evening. Not a pervert in sight thank heaven. I'm sorry you had to witness and experience that kind of depravity as a child and young woman. I'm sure it was psychologically scarring. 😢
I grew up in a whole bunch of places, including some idyllic small towns in the Midwest of the United States, as well as some larger college towns where my dad was a professor. To be honest, before I was in middle school I got very little impression of male grossness. But starting about age 10 when I suddenly started to “fill out” I did get cat-called and got unwanted attention from older men. And yes, even in cute small towns.
The incidents quoted above are mostly from high school and after. A couple are from a smallish town in southwest France, and the rest are from New York City.
It sounds like maybe you led a charmed life in that department. I am not being snarky at all when I say that is the beautiful ideal for all of our young female children. Well, and our male children as well. I wish it could be so for everyone.
So even in France men are pigs. Ugh! Well, idk what the answer is because it seems either men aren't being raised to respect women or they are but when they get out on their own they decide to forget what they were taught and resort to being juvenile assholes. Except now they're finding out that we aren't putting up with that shit so things are going to continue to get very lonely for these douchebags. Choices fellas, choices 🤷
Thing the first: local news story about a guy following a Jacksonville woman around the store playing pocket pool, but because he never actually whipped anything out, it didn't matter that there was security video of him doing it, there is NO LAW AGAINST IT in Florida. The cops couldn't press any charges. Fucking pig.
Thing the second: Not long after we met, Mrs. Thors took her car to a mechanic she had been to before to get the oil changed. It was a large SUV. The guy who had changed the oil was in the driver's seat as she approached the vehicle. When he opened the door to get out, he had his dick in his hand and proposed sex. Fucking pig.
Thanks for confirming that shopping at Dollar Tree is something I don't want to do.
I prefer Dollar General. Is this problem mostly occurring at Dollar Tree stores?
Also, who does shit like this?
It's a much bigger socioeconomic question than just one chain of stores, but they are a good representative of how America has allowed everything to become so expensive that a Dollar Store really can't afford to exist without becoming a shit hole.
It sickens me that any degenerate, pathetic, insignificant warm of a man would consider this action as acceptable.
Insane! An ex of mine was in a mall food court once, with her young son. She looks across the way and notices a guy seated at a table, staring at her, jerking off. He must have been doing it at least for a bit because she said when she locked eyes with him he finished shortly after. Smfh! Some people are just scum
"Whereas flashers and public masturbators seem to get off from the elicitness of the act and the possibility of getting caught or humiliated themselves (or because they’re just perving on teenage girls in a mall store and are disgusting pedophiles), the Dollar Store Gooners appear to be more compelled by the degradation and humiliation of the women they go after."
Every psychology book I've ever read has noted the component of the degradation and humiliation of the victims in flashing incidents, especially ones that involve masturbation. Like rape, it is not actually about sex. It's about aggression and violence...in this case, symbolic and emotional violence rather than physical violence, but violence all the same. It is about exercising control over an unwilling victim.
The only difference now is that the creeps have themselves a little mutual admiration society going for themselves.
We need a third category of speech: speech that is not criminalized, but not permitted, either, at least not in publicly accessable spaces. Social stigma used to provide that, but the Internet nerfed shame.
…Seriously, fellow males (I refuse to call them “men”), WTF?
Pepper spray to the exposed area sounds like a good cure for this gooning problem.
Sound like the Epstein Class….
I saw this in the Guardian and honestly, the first thing that came to mind was, "How soon would I see Robyn's take on this?" Well done! But this sucks that this is even a thing. What the fuck is wrong with these men?!?
Kick them in the fucking balls!
PURSE CANDY!!!! 🍭 🍬 FTW! 🙌🏼
What has happened to men? I'm serious. I'm 68 years old and can honestly say this kind of shit wasn't happening, at least not to the extent it seems to be now, when I was growing up in the 60s and 70s. There were creeps I'm sure but now it's out of control. So many pedophiles. So many men creeping on women and kids. So many rapists and men who commit acts of violence. It's like those kinds of men are now in the majority instead of the the few who you heard about on the news or read about in the newspaper. Wtf guys? Get your shit together. Seriously. 🤨
Wow. I wish I shared your history! 😊
I am not quite your age and I have nothing but incredibly bad memories of creeping creepers when I was younger. Guys standing under a tree and jacking off at me from a distance. A guy staring at me from across a crowded room (as it happens, this room was the main reading room at the 5th Avenue branch of the New York Public Library) and rubbing his cock at me, slowly, while licking his lips. A guy who got on the E Train one night, rubbed one out, and shot his load all over the glass panel right by my face. Endless assholes on construction sites hooting “hey girlie! hey mama come on up and I’ll take care of you!” A guy at the dry cleaners asking if “the collar and cuffs match” while he accepted my drapes for cleaning. Men (lots of men) making SUCKING NOISES at me when I walked to work, or to the bodega, or home from the laundromat.
And this happened, constantly, to all of my friends. My slender, pretty, femme presenting friends. My openly butch dyke friends. Me, with my big boobs and Dick Butkiss shoulders and incipient apron belly. These men did not discriminate. They creeped on us all.
I feel like the blatant pedo crap is new… but then I think back to the hideous ad campaigns of the 1970s, featuring feathered-bang girls - none of whom looked older than 12 or 13 - wearing oil slicks of sticky pink lip gloss. And wasn’t Twiggy earlier even than that, with her stick figure, training bra breasts, and legs like a painfully skinny tween?
I dunno. I wish I were more sanguine. But I think that a LOT of men have ALWAYS been utterly horrible. ☹️
Omg! That's horrible and disgusting! Where in the world did you grow up? Maybe I just grew up in a more sheltered area? Idk, I never saw anything like you described and we were all out running the neighborhoods at all hours of the day and evening. Not a pervert in sight thank heaven. I'm sorry you had to witness and experience that kind of depravity as a child and young woman. I'm sure it was psychologically scarring. 😢
Thank you! 🙏 I will say it wasn’t great! 🤷
I grew up in a whole bunch of places, including some idyllic small towns in the Midwest of the United States, as well as some larger college towns where my dad was a professor. To be honest, before I was in middle school I got very little impression of male grossness. But starting about age 10 when I suddenly started to “fill out” I did get cat-called and got unwanted attention from older men. And yes, even in cute small towns.
The incidents quoted above are mostly from high school and after. A couple are from a smallish town in southwest France, and the rest are from New York City.
It sounds like maybe you led a charmed life in that department. I am not being snarky at all when I say that is the beautiful ideal for all of our young female children. Well, and our male children as well. I wish it could be so for everyone.
So even in France men are pigs. Ugh! Well, idk what the answer is because it seems either men aren't being raised to respect women or they are but when they get out on their own they decide to forget what they were taught and resort to being juvenile assholes. Except now they're finding out that we aren't putting up with that shit so things are going to continue to get very lonely for these douchebags. Choices fellas, choices 🤷
We are NOT putting up with it! That attitude gives me hope!
Thing the first: local news story about a guy following a Jacksonville woman around the store playing pocket pool, but because he never actually whipped anything out, it didn't matter that there was security video of him doing it, there is NO LAW AGAINST IT in Florida. The cops couldn't press any charges. Fucking pig.
Thing the second: Not long after we met, Mrs. Thors took her car to a mechanic she had been to before to get the oil changed. It was a large SUV. The guy who had changed the oil was in the driver's seat as she approached the vehicle. When he opened the door to get out, he had his dick in his hand and proposed sex. Fucking pig.
My ex-husband the rapist manages a Dollar Store. He probably feels at home. Thank all the goddesses I haven't seen that bloke since 1976.
Pro tip: Dollar Tree sells frying pans.