My problem with friends is object permanence. If they’re not around constantly, I continue on in my own little world, and next thing you know, it’s been 10 years since you’ve talked to anyone.
What a lovely review. I met my BFF in high school. We had 1st period English together, and I was the awkward new girl. She smiled, and the room lit up, and I fell head over heels in 15-year-old crush love. I followed her around like a puppy dog for weeks, until she gave in and became my friend. That was 36 years ago, and we still make each other laugh and giggle like school girls. I've never truly enjoyed time with anyone as much as with her, and we've weathered pretty much anything you can think of, between us, over the years. We even had a fight, once, and didn't speak for, like, TWO MONTHS. All kidding aside, I value her friendship more than just about anything else in my life, and I genuinely hope everyone gets to experience it for themselves. One of my favorite quotes:
Friendship is the purest love. It is the highest form of Love where nothing is asked for, no condition, where one simply enjoys giving.
Nah, i'm talking about earlier. Cicero negotiated a deal that would have absolved Ceasar of his crimes in Gaul and allowed him to re-enter Rome. Everything was set, but at the last moment Cato backed out of the deal causing it to fall apart, and so Ceasar crossed the Rubicon with his legions. The rest, is history.
Oh my god I was hoping to come here and say smart things but the Saweetie/Doja Cat song is my favorite, favorite, favorite. I love that song so much despite its grossness. Having a very best girlfriend is all about the two of you, not any guy who comes along. I'm counting down the weeks until I join mine on the beach in Mexico. <3
We've been wild teens, young entrepeneurs, moms (and launched the kids!), divorcees, and survived some life threatening illnesses last year. We're so determined to spend whatever time we have left in each others' company, enjoying nature. It's also her current husband's 60th. I'm cool with him because he just cooks for us and mixes cocktails and takes care of the doggos and stays out of it otherwise.
He's wildly in love with my friend, good natured, strong and capable. I'm very happy for her.
Reading through the comments, it occurs to me that when I turned 50 I decided I was thinking about love all wrong. I haven't had the greatest success with partnered relationships, but my friends are fucking awesome, down to the last one. And I mostly stay friends always, going back to elementary school. So I have TONS of love in my life, it's just philos, not eros. And that's OK! In fact, it's pretty great! It's nice to acknowledge how much love you have even if the world sees you as single.
My daughter asked me what she should answer when people ask if I'm seeing anyone. I suggested "My mom is really enjoying her independence." :-)
I keep telling people: a friendship is a relationship! Philos and agape are just as important as eros (and speaking as a big queer, eros should ideally come along with the other two, too)
I think the main thing is that a friend shouldn't be transactional in that "what did you do for me today?" way. That's what "acquaintances" and "associates" are for.
Something else Cicero said was that whoever stands by while witnessing an injustice and having the power to do something about it, but doesn't, is betraying his family, friends, and country. Something anyone claiming to be a moderate needs to remember lest they be grouped in with the MAGAnon assholes. But since they don't do anything about injustice I can only assume they are okay with it.
"Suppose a god carried you far away to a place where you were granted an abundance of every material good nature could wish for, but denied the possibility of ever seeing a human being. Wouldn’t you have to be as hard as iron to endure that sort of life? Wouldn’t you, utterly alone, lose every capacity for joy and pleasure?”
Sounds like we need to have a Wonkmeet at my farm. BYOB.
Oh, but I imported a woman from Kansas and we have a child. I know several people who are truly alone, while I'm fortunate enough to have a couple of dependents.
Ta, Sara. Very good advice; very bad music. JMO.
https://youtu.be/QGu0m08Etm8
Jefferson Airplane
My Best Friend
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HfhC0ByQC08
You want a friend? Buy a dog.
Adopt a dog
I have a feeling that is why Trump has never had a dog. They see right through him and won't put up with his shit.
Those Dead White European Males from a Slave-Owning Society may have been on to something.....
My problem with friends is object permanence. If they’re not around constantly, I continue on in my own little world, and next thing you know, it’s been 10 years since you’ve talked to anyone.
GRIN!
What a lovely review. I met my BFF in high school. We had 1st period English together, and I was the awkward new girl. She smiled, and the room lit up, and I fell head over heels in 15-year-old crush love. I followed her around like a puppy dog for weeks, until she gave in and became my friend. That was 36 years ago, and we still make each other laugh and giggle like school girls. I've never truly enjoyed time with anyone as much as with her, and we've weathered pretty much anything you can think of, between us, over the years. We even had a fight, once, and didn't speak for, like, TWO MONTHS. All kidding aside, I value her friendship more than just about anything else in my life, and I genuinely hope everyone gets to experience it for themselves. One of my favorite quotes:
Friendship is the purest love. It is the highest form of Love where nothing is asked for, no condition, where one simply enjoys giving.
-Osho
Very pretty words. Of course, what he wrote about Jews was not nearly as nice.
Cicero was an absolute unit. He would have prevented the Roman Civil War if it wasn't for fucking Cato.
Fucking Cato...
I'm never fucking Cato
Others disagree... https://theconversation.com/cicero-isnt-a-model-for-saving-the-state-but-a-symbol-of-what-destroyed-it-172032
Nah, i'm talking about earlier. Cicero negotiated a deal that would have absolved Ceasar of his crimes in Gaul and allowed him to re-enter Rome. Everything was set, but at the last moment Cato backed out of the deal causing it to fall apart, and so Ceasar crossed the Rubicon with his legions. The rest, is history.
Oh my god I was hoping to come here and say smart things but the Saweetie/Doja Cat song is my favorite, favorite, favorite. I love that song so much despite its grossness. Having a very best girlfriend is all about the two of you, not any guy who comes along. I'm counting down the weeks until I join mine on the beach in Mexico. <3
We've been wild teens, young entrepeneurs, moms (and launched the kids!), divorcees, and survived some life threatening illnesses last year. We're so determined to spend whatever time we have left in each others' company, enjoying nature. It's also her current husband's 60th. I'm cool with him because he just cooks for us and mixes cocktails and takes care of the doggos and stays out of it otherwise.
The perfect hubby.
He's wildly in love with my friend, good natured, strong and capable. I'm very happy for her.
Reading through the comments, it occurs to me that when I turned 50 I decided I was thinking about love all wrong. I haven't had the greatest success with partnered relationships, but my friends are fucking awesome, down to the last one. And I mostly stay friends always, going back to elementary school. So I have TONS of love in my life, it's just philos, not eros. And that's OK! In fact, it's pretty great! It's nice to acknowledge how much love you have even if the world sees you as single.
My daughter asked me what she should answer when people ask if I'm seeing anyone. I suggested "My mom is really enjoying her independence." :-)
I keep telling people: a friendship is a relationship! Philos and agape are just as important as eros (and speaking as a big queer, eros should ideally come along with the other two, too)
I think the main thing is that a friend shouldn't be transactional in that "what did you do for me today?" way. That's what "acquaintances" and "associates" are for.
Also trustworthy.
And Roman "clients" people who basically followed bigwig Romans around to praise them and perform whatever services came up in the day.
Thank you for not posting the theme from "The Courtship of Eddie's Father"
Hey. Bill Bixby was gorgeous!
Something else Cicero said was that whoever stands by while witnessing an injustice and having the power to do something about it, but doesn't, is betraying his family, friends, and country. Something anyone claiming to be a moderate needs to remember lest they be grouped in with the MAGAnon assholes. But since they don't do anything about injustice I can only assume they are okay with it.
Can’t forget this one;
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=voNEgCKzves
Or this one
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=sH0Qda32IKM
"Suppose a god carried you far away to a place where you were granted an abundance of every material good nature could wish for, but denied the possibility of ever seeing a human being. Wouldn’t you have to be as hard as iron to endure that sort of life? Wouldn’t you, utterly alone, lose every capacity for joy and pleasure?”
Sounds like we need to have a Wonkmeet at my farm. BYOB.
I'm fine if I have a couple of cats around, and some good books. Humans? Not so much.
Well they do say that them as can live completely alone must either be a beast or a god... but here you are, having conversation with us!
Oh, but I imported a woman from Kansas and we have a child. I know several people who are truly alone, while I'm fortunate enough to have a couple of dependents.
"theoretical lonely paradise" lol.
"I’d be down for that for exactly two days. After that, depression would set in and I’d probably die from an overdose..." Try 41 and a half years!
Bring them garlic bread.