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Crip Dyke's avatar

Another thing you can do with those social media acquaintances is just send them a link to something progressive every time they send you crap. An article from Abortion Every Day! or Erin In The Morning will do wonders.

Either she actually wants to have a dialog and she will read what you send as avidly as she assumes you read her "wisdom", or she doesn't actually want to have a dialog and will happily unfriend you to stop getting offers for DarkBrandon coffee mugs.

The best part of this is that you can assume the best of them the whole time. "Oh, I thought you were a thoughtful person who wanted dialog, so I deliberately sent things that were different from what you were sending me. Get the whole picture, right? Do your own research? Don't just be an infographic-following sheep? Was I wrong and you never wanted to read things from other people and other perspectives?"

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Cookie Lady-back & pissed off's avatar

Where I ended up with the acquaintances who perpetuate bad political stuff (lies, not “misinformation” - no more soft language from me, lies are lies and I call them lies) is based in this one core truth:

Our politics are how we express our values.

I’m not going to be friendly with people whose values are diametrically opposed to mine. Values which dehumanize others? Nah. Fuck that.

I’m also not going to be friendly with people who place those values lower on their hierarchy of values than their own comfort. Nobody gets to pretend they are a good person despite how they vote. You vote for today’s Republicans? You’re a bad person. You think the human rights of others are less important than your economics or tribalism? Fuck you. We can’t be friendly much less friends.

I was accused of “putting politics ahead of relationships” by someone and my initial reaction was self doubt. The whole loving and tolerant liberal thing. Ya know? But then one of my children reminded me that people are literally being killed for WHO THEY ARE and anyone who actively or passively supports that should be shown the door.

Cookie Lady- hardcore edition.

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