It is hard to imagine, at this point, that there are any damn people left in this country who think that Bill Cosby is not a rapist. Yet somehow, someway, some portion of the jury in the sexual assault case against him, were among those people. On Saturday morning, Judge Steven O’Neill announced that the jury was
Wait, what? " Look, I understand why "not all men" is a shitty response when talking about rape culture. It makes things about the men, deflects from the issues, and provides justification for looking the other way, among other things.
But..."all men are actual rapists; most only lack opportunity" is an extraordinary claim (requiring, of course, extraordinary evidence). Which the author did not present.
I can't help but think that line of thought is counterproductive; and not because it risks alienating "male allies" (that's the bullshit that is generally associated with "not all men"). Rather, solving the problem "men are beasts who will sexually assault women given the opportunity" leads you down a different road than say, "male dominated society produces media, etc that normalizes sexual assault".
I have a feeling that the author was being intentionally provocative rather than literally saying "all men are rapists".
I am enraged, just heard on the news that Bill Cosby is planning a tour to educate young people about bad behavior(and how not to get accused of sexual assault...no seriously). If this true... fuck that fucking piece of garbage, he should go live in a damn cave until his next trial and maybe take a few extra of those special pills he loved to hand out, what a fucking cunt! I really hope this is just some super bizarre troll. This has to be an Onion article come to life...
I don't know what you were reading, but all men are actual rapists; most only lack opportunity is not something I have ever written, thought, or said, nor will. What I did write is that all men will offend sexually some have a wider set of circumstances that they will offend in, others -- the vast majority, thankfully -- narrower.
One of the problems with rape culture is that it only takes the man's point-of-view. If we are to eliminate rape culture, we must shift to the woman's point-of-view. That point-of-view is that it is completely understandable that a man would rape a woman even a nice guy with a promising future like Brock Turner.
Too many women don't take steps to protect themselves early enough for fear of offending the man. I am not afraid of alienating men by challenging them to contemplate the circumstances under which they would commit sexual aggression past, present, or future.
One of the few ways we will stop the situation we find ourselves in from manipulating us to do things we would not normally do, is to be aware that it can, will, and does happen. We need to be aware of the phenomenon so that we can recognize it as it occurs.
I have now written a second article in that series, Rape Culture: Yes, It is ALL Men, the Evolution Argument. http://wp.me/p7vabV-3FV
Yes, but there has been an evolutionary imperative hypothesized that would drive men to commit sexual assault and, in general, be sexually aggressive and assertive under specific circumstances. In my second article in the developing series, I address the evolutionary psychology behind sexual assault, http://wp.me/p7vabV-3FV
I don't think that this is a concept that will get more people hurt. I think it will prevent injury. Only by realizing (a) what we're capable of and (b) the degree that circumstances contribute to our actions and choices can we prevent these behaviors from occurring.
You'll have to explain that. I'm using evolutionary psychology and situationalism to develop a thesis and, hopefully, lead to some insights that might then prevent at least some sexual assaults from happening. What are you doing with your time here?
Yes. Yes, yes, yes. I just binge-watched The People v. O.J. Simpson. I was on a very lean media diet when the whole thing happened. Friends told me about it; I may have owned a TV at the time, but if I did, I used it only for watching videos, and I've never been a football fan. Juries are garbage, usually. I remember running into a friend I hadn't seen for quite a while when I went downtown for jury duty. He said, "We'll speak later." I answered, "Yes, if I don't get chosen for a jury. He laughed and said, "No lawyer is going to want you on a jury; you're too smart." I've never made it past voir dire, so maybe he was right.
ETA: I too am a survivor of sexual assault. It's horrific enough when not impaired. I don't even want to imagine what it's like when one has been drugged, and wakes up to find herself (or himself, in rare cases, like prison) a rape victim. Bill Cosby is not just a rapist, he's some kind of necrophiliac. And Camille Crosby is the enabler of a rapist. An accessory to his many, many crimes.
He admitted nothing in court, he didn't testify. There was almost no defense, calling back one witness for clarification, or something, and then a bombastic final summation.
My impression of Berkeley in the 70's was it was pretty much white in the public schools and affluent. And that the majority of inhabitants were college students in any case. Oakland, on the other hand, was where people of color lived and the public schools reflected that and there were a lot of poor people living there. I was in the public schools of San Francisco and the demographic was 40%Asian, 40%Black, 20% Other(White, Hispanic, etc.) The socio-economic demographic was much more diverse in those days. You didn't have to be extremely well off to live in any of those cities. And there was a lot of turmoil. Now...that diversity has vanished in any meaningful way.
That first stand-up Cosby album was a classic and a revelation. The Noah routine and "We will receive, We will receive" even made it into the collective consciousness of my lily-white neighborhood.
I never heard the knock-out drops routine on a later album. That might have been a tip-off.
For various reasons related to my age and how busy I was getting an education at the time, I never watched "I Spy" or "Fat Albert" but the first episode of "Cosby" was about as perfect as a first episode can be. I knew it would be a hit and it was.
It ran too long, as TV hits tend to do, and I also missed the now infamous knockout-drops episode, which would have been another tip-off.
I used to hear people say that Cosby was not such a great guy as Dr. Huxtable but few comedians are nice guys. Most are grouchy and difficult.
And I can relate. I am grouchy and difficult.
I had no idea that under the surface, and despite his obvious talent and even genius, he could be such a monster.
It is sickening. A betrayal. And to see his lawyer make a sick joke at the expense of his victims.... That is lower than low.
As a yinzer, I always had my doubts about Saint Joe Paterno.
The time that the visiting team (my team) arrived at Happy Valley and somehow all of the cleats of their shoes had been loosened gave me a good idea of JoePa's celebrated ethics.
Still, I was shocked to learn the full depth of the Sandusky scandal. There is still a dead D.A. mystery up there.
And there are still Cosby and Paterno fans out there? Yeccch.
I wish there were a hell, so I could imagine your father burning there for all eternity. I'm glad you survived. I'm glad I survived, although I didn't know the men who raped me at gunpoint. I'm glad we all survived.
Wait, what? " Look, I understand why "not all men" is a shitty response when talking about rape culture. It makes things about the men, deflects from the issues, and provides justification for looking the other way, among other things.
But..."all men are actual rapists; most only lack opportunity" is an extraordinary claim (requiring, of course, extraordinary evidence). Which the author did not present.
I can't help but think that line of thought is counterproductive; and not because it risks alienating "male allies" (that's the bullshit that is generally associated with "not all men"). Rather, solving the problem "men are beasts who will sexually assault women given the opportunity" leads you down a different road than say, "male dominated society produces media, etc that normalizes sexual assault".
I have a feeling that the author was being intentionally provocative rather than literally saying "all men are rapists".
I am enraged, just heard on the news that Bill Cosby is planning a tour to educate young people about bad behavior(and how not to get accused of sexual assault...no seriously). If this true... fuck that fucking piece of garbage, he should go live in a damn cave until his next trial and maybe take a few extra of those special pills he loved to hand out, what a fucking cunt! I really hope this is just some super bizarre troll. This has to be an Onion article come to life...
I don't know what you were reading, but all men are actual rapists; most only lack opportunity is not something I have ever written, thought, or said, nor will. What I did write is that all men will offend sexually some have a wider set of circumstances that they will offend in, others -- the vast majority, thankfully -- narrower.
One of the problems with rape culture is that it only takes the man's point-of-view. If we are to eliminate rape culture, we must shift to the woman's point-of-view. That point-of-view is that it is completely understandable that a man would rape a woman even a nice guy with a promising future like Brock Turner.
Too many women don't take steps to protect themselves early enough for fear of offending the man. I am not afraid of alienating men by challenging them to contemplate the circumstances under which they would commit sexual aggression past, present, or future.
One of the few ways we will stop the situation we find ourselves in from manipulating us to do things we would not normally do, is to be aware that it can, will, and does happen. We need to be aware of the phenomenon so that we can recognize it as it occurs.
I have now written a second article in that series, Rape Culture: Yes, It is ALL Men, the Evolution Argument. http://wp.me/p7vabV-3FV
Yes, but there has been an evolutionary imperative hypothesized that would drive men to commit sexual assault and, in general, be sexually aggressive and assertive under specific circumstances. In my second article in the developing series, I address the evolutionary psychology behind sexual assault, http://wp.me/p7vabV-3FV
I don't think that this is a concept that will get more people hurt. I think it will prevent injury. Only by realizing (a) what we're capable of and (b) the degree that circumstances contribute to our actions and choices can we prevent these behaviors from occurring.
You'll have to explain that. I'm using evolutionary psychology and situationalism to develop a thesis and, hopefully, lead to some insights that might then prevent at least some sexual assaults from happening. What are you doing with your time here?
It's really hard to know what to say to that, that could offer any real comfort, but the sentiment is there at least.
Great story. So the theory of evolution is true then?
Yes. Yes, yes, yes. I just binge-watched The People v. O.J. Simpson. I was on a very lean media diet when the whole thing happened. Friends told me about it; I may have owned a TV at the time, but if I did, I used it only for watching videos, and I've never been a football fan. Juries are garbage, usually. I remember running into a friend I hadn't seen for quite a while when I went downtown for jury duty. He said, "We'll speak later." I answered, "Yes, if I don't get chosen for a jury. He laughed and said, "No lawyer is going to want you on a jury; you're too smart." I've never made it past voir dire, so maybe he was right.
ETA: I too am a survivor of sexual assault. It's horrific enough when not impaired. I don't even want to imagine what it's like when one has been drugged, and wakes up to find herself (or himself, in rare cases, like prison) a rape victim. Bill Cosby is not just a rapist, he's some kind of necrophiliac. And Camille Crosby is the enabler of a rapist. An accessory to his many, many crimes.
He admitted nothing in court, he didn't testify. There was almost no defense, calling back one witness for clarification, or something, and then a bombastic final summation.
My impression of Berkeley in the 70's was it was pretty much white in the public schools and affluent. And that the majority of inhabitants were college students in any case. Oakland, on the other hand, was where people of color lived and the public schools reflected that and there were a lot of poor people living there. I was in the public schools of San Francisco and the demographic was 40%Asian, 40%Black, 20% Other(White, Hispanic, etc.) The socio-economic demographic was much more diverse in those days. You didn't have to be extremely well off to live in any of those cities. And there was a lot of turmoil. Now...that diversity has vanished in any meaningful way.
That first stand-up Cosby album was a classic and a revelation. The Noah routine and "We will receive, We will receive" even made it into the collective consciousness of my lily-white neighborhood.
I never heard the knock-out drops routine on a later album. That might have been a tip-off.
For various reasons related to my age and how busy I was getting an education at the time, I never watched "I Spy" or "Fat Albert" but the first episode of "Cosby" was about as perfect as a first episode can be. I knew it would be a hit and it was.
It ran too long, as TV hits tend to do, and I also missed the now infamous knockout-drops episode, which would have been another tip-off.
I used to hear people say that Cosby was not such a great guy as Dr. Huxtable but few comedians are nice guys. Most are grouchy and difficult.
And I can relate. I am grouchy and difficult.
I had no idea that under the surface, and despite his obvious talent and even genius, he could be such a monster.
It is sickening. A betrayal. And to see his lawyer make a sick joke at the expense of his victims.... That is lower than low.
As a yinzer, I always had my doubts about Saint Joe Paterno.
The time that the visiting team (my team) arrived at Happy Valley and somehow all of the cleats of their shoes had been loosened gave me a good idea of JoePa's celebrated ethics.
Still, I was shocked to learn the full depth of the Sandusky scandal. There is still a dead D.A. mystery up there.
And there are still Cosby and Paterno fans out there? Yeccch.
I wish there were a hell, so I could imagine your father burning there for all eternity. I'm glad you survived. I'm glad I survived, although I didn't know the men who raped me at gunpoint. I'm glad we all survived.
Oh yeah, I remember hearing that. This is so fucked up in so many ways.
Yes, it is. But I won't criticize Huma for the personal choices she made regarding her marriage.
He's through. He sure as hell won't be taking over NBC now.