It’s no surprise that there is an over reaction but there’s far too many victims of this. I have a nephew who was shaken and is just barely alive even after eight years. The father is in prison. It is harsh all around but he deserves a long
You know what always kills me? On TV and in the movies where the cops find a suspicious white powder and they dip their finger it and say, “yep, that’s cocaine.”Really, you have no idea what something is, but you’re going to go ahead and taste it? Also, I have to wonder why every cop seems to know what cocaine tastes like.
My cousin and her husband lost their firstborn child to a shaking incident a few days shy of his first birthday. A caregiver confessed to having been stressed by too many children in her care all acting up at the same time, causing her to shake the living daylights out of this dear baby, who died of brain trauma a couple of days later. My cousin had to return to work and has since had to deal with feelings of guilt for having placed her son in someone else's care -- after thorough vetting, ironically -- to do so. She and her husband dealt with their grief by advocating for a law in their state requiring new parents and caregivers to receive education about the dangers of being too rough with infants, even in play. This article comes as distressing news to me. I don't know how I feel about it. I do know that the woman who shook my cousin's son, resulting in his death, spent time in prison. She said she deserved it, believing without doubt that her act of frustration that day killed a child. I also know that our entire family still grieves for that adorable baby. When you discuss this issue, please do so with compassion. Thank you.
Someone I went to school with, married a guy I ended up working with, who had the daughter of a whole family I went to school with (another daughter of which family babysat *me* at least once), babysit their baby (professionally, not as a favour) on the mother's return to work. Small town :(
The baby ended up being thrown against a wall when the babysitter lost her rag. She was pregnant when she pled guilty to manslaughter and I seemed to recall only served a couple of months in jail at months with a couple of years on probation - because she was pregnant (already had a couple of kids whom she was caring for at the time as well, which was one of the causes of her losing her temper.)
Everyone suffered in this scenario, but I'm still angry at the woman who decided she could handle multiple kids *and* a small baby, and then let the baby pay the price for her not understanding her own limitations. That baby's family went through hell. You and your cousin's family have my sincere compassion.
All the same, there's sad cases, and there's medical bullshit as well (look at the women jailed for SIDS - Sally Clark was one of them, and she died of sorrow as a result). The justice system needs to work on facts, not campaigners with an agenda.
the Dr's have a role to play in this too - proper diagnosis of an injury is vital - saying 'we can't explain it, so shaken baby' is lazy, to my way of thinking
Thank you. That’s the kind of compassion I’m talking about bringing to this discussion. The story you tell is one with nothing but victims in it, and yes, there was something wrong with the setup in that caregiving situation. In my cousin’s case, it was all infants, I think — no toddlers running around. The woman came with excellent credentials and good references, but obviously that wasn’t a guarantee that she wouldn’t lose it one day, with tragic results. I’ll be looking into these developments deeper. My cousin and I haven’t talked about it and I’m dreading bringing it up, frankly, so I’ll wait to see if she does and be ready to listen. It’s been over 20 years since her baby was killed. Why is it I always get the most important news first from Wonkette?
My mother used to shake me as a toddler, as a form of 'punishment.' She thought it was better for me than spanking. Of course, she was also spank happy too.
"Shaken Baby Syndrome" is finally starting to join other things as "junk science"---like "blood spatter" and "bite mark" evidence. I'm not sure if you can still access this article, but it's worth reading if you can. It may be archived: https://captimes.com/news/h...Other things that are now coming under the umbrella of "junk science" or at least demanding a raised eyebrow include: drug sniffing dogs (they can "alert" on a signal from the handler, besides which 90% of our money is contaminated), fire science, cadaver dogs (they can "alert" on anything dead, not just humans), and fingerprint analysis when it's only partial fingerprints. That's just a few. I'm sure someone else knows others.
This is the same judicial system that refuses to believe that Alcoholics Anonymous is an overtly religious group, that advocates a spiritual solution to a medical problem.
Yeah, but goggies will sleep anywhere. I hope your pupper sheds. It would improve those sofas.
*Snort*
It’s no surprise that there is an over reaction but there’s far too many victims of this. I have a nephew who was shaken and is just barely alive even after eight years. The father is in prison. It is harsh all around but he deserves a long
And them roadside drug tests on whatever the cops find in a car. False positives over and over.
You know what always kills me? On TV and in the movies where the cops find a suspicious white powder and they dip their finger it and say, “yep, that’s cocaine.”Really, you have no idea what something is, but you’re going to go ahead and taste it? Also, I have to wonder why every cop seems to know what cocaine tastes like.
Weird.
They must use evidence to have drug tasting classes on saturday afternoons back at the station.
My cousin and her husband lost their firstborn child to a shaking incident a few days shy of his first birthday. A caregiver confessed to having been stressed by too many children in her care all acting up at the same time, causing her to shake the living daylights out of this dear baby, who died of brain trauma a couple of days later. My cousin had to return to work and has since had to deal with feelings of guilt for having placed her son in someone else's care -- after thorough vetting, ironically -- to do so. She and her husband dealt with their grief by advocating for a law in their state requiring new parents and caregivers to receive education about the dangers of being too rough with infants, even in play. This article comes as distressing news to me. I don't know how I feel about it. I do know that the woman who shook my cousin's son, resulting in his death, spent time in prison. She said she deserved it, believing without doubt that her act of frustration that day killed a child. I also know that our entire family still grieves for that adorable baby. When you discuss this issue, please do so with compassion. Thank you.
Someone I went to school with, married a guy I ended up working with, who had the daughter of a whole family I went to school with (another daughter of which family babysat *me* at least once), babysit their baby (professionally, not as a favour) on the mother's return to work. Small town :(
The baby ended up being thrown against a wall when the babysitter lost her rag. She was pregnant when she pled guilty to manslaughter and I seemed to recall only served a couple of months in jail at months with a couple of years on probation - because she was pregnant (already had a couple of kids whom she was caring for at the time as well, which was one of the causes of her losing her temper.)
Everyone suffered in this scenario, but I'm still angry at the woman who decided she could handle multiple kids *and* a small baby, and then let the baby pay the price for her not understanding her own limitations. That baby's family went through hell. You and your cousin's family have my sincere compassion.
All the same, there's sad cases, and there's medical bullshit as well (look at the women jailed for SIDS - Sally Clark was one of them, and she died of sorrow as a result). The justice system needs to work on facts, not campaigners with an agenda.
its so harry potter
the Dr's have a role to play in this too - proper diagnosis of an injury is vital - saying 'we can't explain it, so shaken baby' is lazy, to my way of thinking
That's already been happening for at least the last 10 years.
Thank you. That’s the kind of compassion I’m talking about bringing to this discussion. The story you tell is one with nothing but victims in it, and yes, there was something wrong with the setup in that caregiving situation. In my cousin’s case, it was all infants, I think — no toddlers running around. The woman came with excellent credentials and good references, but obviously that wasn’t a guarantee that she wouldn’t lose it one day, with tragic results. I’ll be looking into these developments deeper. My cousin and I haven’t talked about it and I’m dreading bringing it up, frankly, so I’ll wait to see if she does and be ready to listen. It’s been over 20 years since her baby was killed. Why is it I always get the most important news first from Wonkette?
Thank you for paying attention to our reactions to your story, Robin.
My mother used to shake me as a toddler, as a form of 'punishment.' She thought it was better for me than spanking. Of course, she was also spank happy too.
"Shaken Baby Syndrome" is finally starting to join other things as "junk science"---like "blood spatter" and "bite mark" evidence. I'm not sure if you can still access this article, but it's worth reading if you can. It may be archived: https://captimes.com/news/h...Other things that are now coming under the umbrella of "junk science" or at least demanding a raised eyebrow include: drug sniffing dogs (they can "alert" on a signal from the handler, besides which 90% of our money is contaminated), fire science, cadaver dogs (they can "alert" on anything dead, not just humans), and fingerprint analysis when it's only partial fingerprints. That's just a few. I'm sure someone else knows others.
This is the same judicial system that refuses to believe that Alcoholics Anonymous is an overtly religious group, that advocates a spiritual solution to a medical problem.