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Yep and yep.

Some places do more thorough background checks than others, but I suspect there's a lot of the good-old-boy network/"personal references" going on in the hiring process.

(And, yes, a lot of people with this problem are *very* interested in the working-with-kids jobs so they can get access.)

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Much love to you, and the other survivors.

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So you're down with child abuse. Good to know.

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Forget it...I can't even...where to begin...

Let us cut to the chase: Go Fuck Yourself, you and your little bit o'teen porn

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Thank you, the rest of the comments seemed too witty for this comment to belong. But this country has lost its mind, so one never knows.

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Whoa!! That's judgey-time.

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That's the "did you just tell me 'no'?" face

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After retiring, I realized that I had been under the control of an external system with its own rules, values, rewards, and punishments since I entered kindergarten at the age of five. I completely understood why four-year-olds are so happy.

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A guy from my high school was caught (several years after high school) in a motel room with his father, both having sex with a fourteen-year-old girl. On top of all the skeeviness, I found the idea of sharing a sexual experience with your father a tad on the creepy side.

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With clowns, preferably...

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Thank you, this was kinda my point that I failed to articulate. I spent 20 years jamming a hat on or removing one at every doorstep. So I'm kinda shocked to see military types out for dinner in Europe in civvies, with a fucking baseball cap on. Backwards. Some kinda low life fashion statement, I guess.

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“We are praying for his family” the church said.How about you fucks start policing the sex lives of your own clergy instead of everyone else's? The truth is, the churches knows whats going on among their ranks, and they pray no one will find out.

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When it comes the sex lives of the male members the their churches, particularly the pastors and members of their boards, Christian fundie churches are just like their Islamic counterparts; and, what is far less widely known, Jewish fundies, like the Chassidim. They embrace the proverb first written in the Analects of Confucius but which is said to have been born in Japan as the Three Wise Monkeys "See no evil, Hear no evil, Speak no evil." They, of course, hope no one outside their communities notice anything, either.

The wives and daughters of those churches, again somewhat like their Islamic counterparts, are subject to a far different standard. It's known as the need "to behave like Caesar's wife." At least, Fundies of the Christian sort (most anyway) no longer maim, torture and kill their women to "balance" the shortcomings of their menfolk as many Islamic fundies are wont to do.

The principle of the sin eater or Judas goat is older than Islam or Christianity. So far as I know, Eve was the first official sin eater and all her female descendants were designated sin eaters to the end of time as far as god bothering fundies of the "People of the Book." It's the ultimate sado-masochism.

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Oh my, yes. Authority figures, rules, expectations, conformity, silly game playing. . .I was very happy until I was 5. I remember how happy I was quite vividly. I loathed school, but I learned to wear a mask and play the game. It has taken me 18 months of retirement to peel it off and cast it aside and become myself again. Did you ever listen to "The Logical Song" by Supertramp? It is my theme song.https://www.youtube.com/wat...

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A Best Western???Really????Now that's gross.

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Ah, I misread what his title had been.

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