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Most of us stopped doing that around 7th or 8th grade.

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"enforcer(s) of this grotesque culture" is exactly right. Read any first-hand accounts of participants or journalists from the Civil War and you hear over and over how the most vicious and vocal secessionists in the South were the womenfolk. And it was all about defending a morally indefensible Kultur, which they had bought into 110%. While it denied them any agency, required their permanent "less-than-a-man" status, the system still allowed them to lord it over every and any person of color, with horrific penalties from the slightest hint at a transgression.

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But at least it was totally hetero bondage and forced nude wrestling!

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It's all fan fiction.

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And deeply hated, and mocked, by the entitled students from Virginia'a pompous FFV (first families of VA.)

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From Kellog's CV at VMI:

KEY EXAMPLES OF SUCCESS Ranked in the top three of outstanding teachers at Southern Virginia University 2001-2014 Named a “Master Teacher” at Johns Hopkins University Engages students in successful management and marketing consulting experiences Recipient of prestigious Okazaki Faculty Distinguished Service Award 2012 Gifted online, on-ground, and flipped-classroom teacher

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A friend of mine attended Randolph-Macon Woman's College when it wasn't co-ed (they proudly wore the label "The Whores on the Hill" from Jerry Falwell and his Liberty "University" on the other side of town) and their favorite nickname for Hampden-Sydney was "Hamster-Squiggly". Apparently they still held the old cotillion from back in the day when the eligible bachelors of H-S would court the ladies of Randolph-Macon. Of course, by the 90s they'd have been barking up the wrong tree with at least half the women at a women's college.

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They're now called the American Baptists, as opposed to the Southern Baptists. I think they changed their name from Northern Baptists 50 or 60 years ago.

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I don't remember a cotillion (but that could have been because I was total introvert) but I do remember that there were regular meet and greet events between schools.

And if they couldn't find the right tree at RMWC, there was always Hollins or Mary Baldwin.

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Trump attended a military high school.

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it's for rich preppie boys (still not co-ed) from the West End of Richmond who couldn't get into U. Va or W&L despite generations of family giving, let alone an Ivy, and aren't inclined to the spartan existence of VMI. So, not too bright and not too energetic, but rich.

It was at a wedding reception at The Commonwealth Club in 1975, where groom was an H-SC grad and bride a Hollins grad, (her father was later Reagan's campaign manager in VA in 1980) that I realized that I was a) a Marxist and b) not destined to stay in Virginia...

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They didn't want women to disrupt their traditions

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She talks about it like it was a bowling club which she has fond memories of. The perspective that she says the student lacks is that "Don't you see? It wasn't all bad. Dads and kids having fun together. In those days it was perfectly normal." I can't believe she's still working there. Also, too, curious about her sisters remarks. Maybe she's not only trying to draw a happy face on racism but telling a pack of lies in order to do it.

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I graduated from Ohio schools about 5 years after Kellogg. I will concede that the schools were mostly segregated because you went to your neighborhood schools, and in those days, neighborhoods were pretty clear cut. I rarely encountered a black student, but holy crap, I didn't presume that they couldn't read, didn't bathe, etc etc. During those rare encounters, I discovered that black students could play the harp, just like me. And could enjoy and perform classical music, as I did. And do well in classes, too. And be totally charming and wonderful, just like... well anyway.

FFS.

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And don't forget Sweet Briar, where the typical new freshman shows up with, in addition to the usual paraphernalia, a horse or two.

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I want to leave this world like my granddaddy who died in his sleep, not screaming like those people he ran down.

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