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I lived in St. Louis for 20 years, and you are right. I also lived in Chicago, and it was the same there. The only place I didn't encounter it openly was Miami, but I'm sure it exists there as well among certain groups.

I had two very dear friends in college who were Jewish and from Chicago, and I visited both of them in their parent's homes several times. All of their grandparents were Holocaust survivors. We had some long and interesting conversations, which is when I heard some of the older family members say that "every Gentile is secretly anti-Semitic." I disagreed at the time, but I was young and idealistic, and as I got older, I have found that this is mostly true, but there is a wide spectrum of anti-Semitism.

Sometimes the anti-Semitism is very superficial because they have never actually met a Jewish person, and they are just repeating things they heard other people saying, but they never really think about it, nor do they act upon it because they never meet any Jewish people. It is in some ways similar to people who say "Germans are obsessed with rules and structure" or "Italians are so emotional" or "The French are so arrogant and rude." These are common stereotypes, which are sometimes true and sometimes not true, and people who have not traveled or met any Germans, Italians, French or Jewish people often believe in these stereotypes, especially if they see them portrayed on TV.

Does that make them anti-Semitic? I don't know. I don't have the right to make that decision, as I am not Jewish.

I did work in a government office 37 years ago in a town I will not name that is predominantly German Catholic, and where a large number of the support staff were uneducated, redneck trailer trash, and they decided that I was Jewish because of my hair and my profile and the fact that I had a few female friends who happened to be Jewish. Then a male friend from The Gambia who was a Ph.D. student at a nearby university took me to lunch, and that was even worse. I was secretly referred to after that as a "Jew N----r lover." This was in 1980, not so long ago. I got out of that job and that town ASAP. I suspect nothing has changed there.

My mother was an Italian Catholic, and she lived in tiny little Lynn, MO in 1950. The rest of the town was almost exclusively German Catholic. The small business people refused to wait on her because they despised Italian Catholics. People would not even speak to her. The local Catholic Church refused to enroll my sister in pre-school, saying the class was full, which was a lie. After 9 months of this treatment she told my father "get a transfer to somewhere else or I'm leaving you," so he did, and they moved to a larger, more liberal city. This was not anti-Semitism, it was something else that today we call "ethnic profiling."

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jmhm's avatar

omg that's so wrong.

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