Two things in the world are true, and only two: Jenna Bush-Hager, daughter of Dubya, granddaughter of Poppy, still does "journalism" for the NBC "Today Show" thingie sometimes. This really hot guy named Pita Taufatofua was the Olympic flag-bearer for Tonga during the Rio opening ceremonies, and he brokeded the entire united states of the internet, with his glistening body.
My son has been accosted by random young women, even in groups, who think it's perfectly okay to get up in his personal space and touch him and/or his possessions (he wears interesting jewelry). He's ridiculously handsome (if I do say so myself) and looks like Thor with a ginger beard. He has complained to me about it before, and I agreed that it's no more right for a gang of women to do that to him just because he's a 6'5" dude than it would be for a guy or guys to do that to a woman. I did point out to him that when women are the objects of that kind of attention, we're not just creeped out and annoyed like he was, we're almost always terrified. But still, in his case, I reassured him it was wrong that they should do something to him that they know, as women, would completely freak them out if the tables were turned.
Yeah I hear you. When I was 13 I went to this waterpark with my cousin and by the time it was like 5 o'clock I was sunburned so badly that it took like two weeks and loads of aloe vera lotion before I was okay. Worst part of all is my 'tan' peeled right off leaving my shoulders and back looking like the inside of a banana. I didn't even get a tan out of it....but since I've spent so much time working out to get into shape I figure I should at least get some color on my body so I am going to get some sun but just be very careful when I do it.
And too, in slight contrast, traveling with a young 20-something daughter and her friend, with the two of them eyeing and commenting on the guys on the beach, I went soft-parent and told them that if the two of them were guys commenting on women like that I'd be giving them full on Hell about objectifying people... I thought of it as an implied parental lesson...
Sounds like my story. I went with my GF and her brothers to a waterpark when I was about the same age. It didn't cross my mind to bring any sunscreen, because I was a dumb teen. And because my GF and her brothers were very dark-skinned Mexican kids, they didn't have any, either. I was pretty much looked like a Hiroshma victim for weeks so I've been VERY careful since then.
And with my kids. My son is a milky-white blonde and my daughter is a freckly ginger like me. I still have half a dozen bottles of sunscreen from the days when the used to go swimming. That's partly because whichever "responsible adult" they were with (including their dad, who's a goddman soulless ginger himself) wouldn't correctly apply or re-apply it even though I always emphasized the need. But they always home fried and eventually just stopped agreeing to go swimming outdoors.
Bonus: My son quit going first because his dad used to take him to his new wife's brother's pool and the ratfucking BIL used to fat-shame him because he was a pudgy middle-schooler.
Your brother in law seems nice! My brother was picked on so much for being husky as a kid that he went nutso anorexic for a while. Mine was the other way- I was as skinny as a rail and wanted to gain weight so I did. See? This is why we need to build the wall, Messicans tricking unsuspecting gingers into being burned to a crisp at waterparks! TRUMP! TRUMP! Yeah I wonder what SPF I'm going to need....I'm not going to lie I'm pretty white.
Speaking as old straight white male, I have to say that when Mr. Taufatotua sailed onto the screen I found myself drooling a bit. I'm sure it was the oil.
That's good. When I was growing up, my biological dad was a bit of an ass and used to make comments about women RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME. So I thought it was just a "normal" thing to do. Didn't make me self conscious AT all, right?
Damn... It just shouldn't be that hard to be good, kind and decent to kidz... of all ages... It's hard to see how people treat some kidz... almost like the supposed grown-ups aren't any more emotionally mature than the kidz... and they might not be... not realizing that the guiding notion "someone here needz to be the grown-up" relates to more than just age... or size...
Oh, so you had to live in another state to find Mexicans, now that I can believe. Because I totally had my challenge button pressed, I was going to make you provide citations and an annotated bibliography with footnotes or endnotes....
Kinda sure that's why my mom divorced him. I love him to bits now (I didn't see him from the time I was 10 until I was 18) but he's still pretty much just a doofus. And still kind of a sexist ass, unfortunately, and doesn't understand why. But he's 70 so I'm pretty sure that's not going to change.
Oh, no. I'm not modest at all, Moozlim OR insulting myself. I just burn like bacon in a hot skillet.
My son has been accosted by random young women, even in groups, who think it's perfectly okay to get up in his personal space and touch him and/or his possessions (he wears interesting jewelry). He's ridiculously handsome (if I do say so myself) and looks like Thor with a ginger beard. He has complained to me about it before, and I agreed that it's no more right for a gang of women to do that to him just because he's a 6'5" dude than it would be for a guy or guys to do that to a woman. I did point out to him that when women are the objects of that kind of attention, we're not just creeped out and annoyed like he was, we're almost always terrified. But still, in his case, I reassured him it was wrong that they should do something to him that they know, as women, would completely freak them out if the tables were turned.
Yeah I hear you. When I was 13 I went to this waterpark with my cousin and by the time it was like 5 o'clock I was sunburned so badly that it took like two weeks and loads of aloe vera lotion before I was okay. Worst part of all is my 'tan' peeled right off leaving my shoulders and back looking like the inside of a banana. I didn't even get a tan out of it....but since I've spent so much time working out to get into shape I figure I should at least get some color on my body so I am going to get some sun but just be very careful when I do it.
And too, in slight contrast, traveling with a young 20-something daughter and her friend, with the two of them eyeing and commenting on the guys on the beach, I went soft-parent and told them that if the two of them were guys commenting on women like that I'd be giving them full on Hell about objectifying people... I thought of it as an implied parental lesson...
Sounds like my story. I went with my GF and her brothers to a waterpark when I was about the same age. It didn't cross my mind to bring any sunscreen, because I was a dumb teen. And because my GF and her brothers were very dark-skinned Mexican kids, they didn't have any, either. I was pretty much looked like a Hiroshma victim for weeks so I've been VERY careful since then.
And with my kids. My son is a milky-white blonde and my daughter is a freckly ginger like me. I still have half a dozen bottles of sunscreen from the days when the used to go swimming. That's partly because whichever "responsible adult" they were with (including their dad, who's a goddman soulless ginger himself) wouldn't correctly apply or re-apply it even though I always emphasized the need. But they always home fried and eventually just stopped agreeing to go swimming outdoors.
Bonus: My son quit going first because his dad used to take him to his new wife's brother's pool and the ratfucking BIL used to fat-shame him because he was a pudgy middle-schooler.
Shit-tard BIL...
Your brother in law seems nice! My brother was picked on so much for being husky as a kid that he went nutso anorexic for a while. Mine was the other way- I was as skinny as a rail and wanted to gain weight so I did. See? This is why we need to build the wall, Messicans tricking unsuspecting gingers into being burned to a crisp at waterparks! TRUMP! TRUMP! Yeah I wonder what SPF I'm going to need....I'm not going to lie I'm pretty white.
Speaking as old straight white male, I have to say that when Mr. Taufatotua sailed onto the screen I found myself drooling a bit. I'm sure it was the oil.
That's good. When I was growing up, my biological dad was a bit of an ass and used to make comments about women RIGHT IN FRONT OF ME. So I thought it was just a "normal" thing to do. Didn't make me self conscious AT all, right?
Wait a second...hold the phone. You're telling me there are Mexicans in KANSAS? Alright Shan, I call bullshit on that...
Well, I lived in KCMO at the time, so...
He's not my BIL, he's my XH's new wife's brother. I've never met him, or he'd be missing his last four teeth.
Damn... It just shouldn't be that hard to be good, kind and decent to kidz... of all ages... It's hard to see how people treat some kidz... almost like the supposed grown-ups aren't any more emotionally mature than the kidz... and they might not be... not realizing that the guiding notion "someone here needz to be the grown-up" relates to more than just age... or size...
Ah, well if you did that what teeth would the meth have to claim? You were thinking of others there, very considerate.
Oh, so you had to live in another state to find Mexicans, now that I can believe. Because I totally had my challenge button pressed, I was going to make you provide citations and an annotated bibliography with footnotes or endnotes....
Kinda sure that's why my mom divorced him. I love him to bits now (I didn't see him from the time I was 10 until I was 18) but he's still pretty much just a doofus. And still kind of a sexist ass, unfortunately, and doesn't understand why. But he's 70 so I'm pretty sure that's not going to change.