Sarah McBride made history last week as the first transgender person (that we know of) elected to the United States Congress. That is a big, wonderful, joyful deal in an otherwise unpleasant time.
But then came Congressional Mean Girl Nancy Mace, who filed a resolution on Monday to bar “[m]embers, officers, and employees of the House from using single-sex facilities other than those corresponding to their biological sex,” for the explicit purposes of barring McBride from using the congressional women’s restroom.
McBride has handled it gracefully, posting on social media that “Every day Americans go to work with people who have life journeys different than their own and engage with them respectfully, I hope members of Congress can muster that same kindness,” and adding, “This is a blatant attempt from far right-wing extremists to distract from the fact that they have no real solutions to what Americans are facing. We should be focused on bringing down the cost of housing, health care, and child care, not manufacturing culture wars.”
Asked by a social media user if she meant to target McBride with her legislation, Mace responded, “Yes and then some. Biological men do not have any rights to women’s private spaces. It’s perverted to think otherwise."
Getting even more creepy about it, Mace also repeatedly told reporters that “Sarah McBride doesn't get a say here,” and claimed to be “protecting” women and girls and the rights of women and girls. She also noted that she was the first woman to graduate from the Citadel and would be really mad if a “man in a skirt” came by and told her “No, that’s my achievement,” she would tell him it was not.
I don’t understand what the hell it is she does in the restroom that cannot be seen by eyes that were assigned male at birth.
Is Nancy Mace strutting around the ladies’ room naked? Does she go to the bathroom with the door open? Does she forget to flush? Is she masturbating? Is she changing outfits outside of the stall? Is she doing coke?
Is she like Anjelica Huston in The Witches and she has a whole ass face she has to take off?
If that is the case, it’s hard to see why she would want to do these things in front of cis women, either. I have managed to go my whole life without seeing a single fully naked person in a public bathroom and I have definitely lived a life far more conducive to that kind of thing than Nancy Mace has. Gender neutral bathrooms are the norm at the bars I go to in Chicago now, and it’s fine! Everything’s fine! Because there are doors on the stalls!
Is she afraid to look at Sarah McBride’s shoes? Or to see her washing her hands? Putting on lipstick? There are a very limited number of activities that people get up to in restrooms!
Of course, we know that none of this is what Nancy Mace is talking about when she says that barring McBride from the women’s restroom is “common sense.” She’s suggesting that, at best, McBride might walk around the ladies’ room naked, and that at worst she is a potential sexual assailant.
So, because of this, Mace wants McBride to use the men’s room, which will be far more awkward and likely humiliating for her and for everyone else in the men’s room. Mace is a classic bully and she wants to make this woman feel as unwelcome as can be, because she doesn’t like the idea of a trans woman serving in Congress.
There is a little bit of irony in Mace mentioning that she was the first woman to graduate from The Citadel. You’ll note that she says “graduate” and not “be accepted into,” because that honor actually belongs to Shannon Faulkner. Faulkner was the first woman accepted into The Citadel, but because the men at the school (and many outside of it) felt that it was a “men’s space,” only five of them were “authorized” to talk to her — though many managed to harass and threaten her so badly that she left after a week. She would later reveal that the reason she left was because someone actually threatened to kill her parents if she didn’t.
Nancy Mace is not standing up for women, she is acting exactly like the male Citadel cadets who made her predecessor’s life hell, all because they didn’t think she belonged in “their space,” the same way that Nancy Mace thinks Sarah McBride doesn’t belong in hers.
OPEN THREAD.
PREVIOUSLY ON WONKETTE!
Hello. This is Hannah. You will know me as Mrs Wellstone. As you may know, my husband was a member of this community for many years. You may also be aware of his condition and his decision to end his online presence and focus on his immediate surroundings and circumstances.
I’m here to deliver a message to all of you on his behalf. He asked me to post this as a comment on your daily open thread. This seems to be today’s open thread article. So, here it is. I am copying and pasting directly from what he wrote.
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Dear wonkers,
Hanging out on Substack was something I liked to do. I saw it as my duty to educate and advocate for a Democratic victory in the 2024 election and Wonkette and Substack were my channels of choice.
Given the results of the election, I have decided to focus on closer concerns. From where I stand, there is no line of sight close enough to warrant investing in putting up a fight. If I were ten years younger, I would be right there resisting with you. Unfortunately, given the circumstances, that’s not a viable course of action for me.
Ours is a busy, animated, quirky, funny, and whimsical household that spans multiple locations and gives shelter and sustenance to family members, dear friends, occasional guests, acquaintances, and many (many) cats, dogs, birds, turtles, ferrets, and actual wildlife, and I want to focus on all that instead of on what happens in a country I’m not going to visit ever again.
My family has begun the process of erasing my presence from the Internet in preparation for my exit. All my accounts are being deleted including my Substack account. My phone is next. This is the last time I’m posting something on an online forum.
Like I said on the live thread on election night, it’s been my privilege having been a member of this community. I celebrate the amazing events this little mommyblog and recipe hub where comments are not allowed sparks and spawns in people’s lives; the friendships, marriages, and the solidarity among everyone here. I am going to miss all of you.
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For those who may want to ask, I am still
me; the meds are still working, the ‘shrooms help a lot, the weed and the booze make it interesting, and my family and friends make it worth being present. The discourse here made it stimulating and challenging but it’s too time-consuming for me now. Time spent online is better spent being home with the people I love. Y’all mean a lot to me but you can’t have it all. So, I’m saying goodbye to you and wishing everyone the best of luck while I still can.
I hope shit gets better. I hope the 2026 midterms give us a chance to start putting out the dumpster fires. I hope I’m still here to see it. Who knows? Maybe I’ll pop back in again and we’ll all laugh at this and we’re gonna have a chance to have nice things again. For now, adieu. Fuck Ted Cruz.
Yours in service,
Walter Wellstone
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Thank you for allowing me to convey this message. If you’d like to send my husband a message of your own please reply here. I will read your responses to him and I know he’s going to be very happy to hear from you.
Thanks,
Hannah
Tomorrow is TDoR.
I had to figure out if I wanted to write something specific for it, but I'm just lost in all the precious, beautiful lives that have been snuffed. And today's open thread is about a woman who can't wait to snuff more.
I feel like indiscriminate rage is the appropriate response, but I can't lift my rage above the surface of this oceanic despair.