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Old Man Shadow's avatar

"Men don’t want..."

Don't speak for me.

If you wish to lead, lead by example, not dictate backed up with the implicit threat of violence. That's not a leader, that's a bully. That's not a man, that's an insecure unruly child in a man's body.

And if you can't love a woman if she's smarter than you or she makes more money than you, then you don't love her. If her success makes you feel small, that's your issue, not hers. Get some therapy. Figure out why you need someone else to hurt so you feel better about yourself.

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Apr 8Edited

"The left has gone too far socially!" This is the tell that the person thinks it okay to have a caste system. That there are Good People (my tribe) and Bad People (the Others) and it is okay to treat the Bad People as things. They can treat the "others" as second class citizens at best, or less than human at worst. They think that they Others don't deserve to be seen or heard, and they don't deserve equal rights under the law, or respect, or dignity.

FWIW, within a few dates with Mr. Anzu, he proudly said he was a feminist (this was around 2002 or so when it was not a radical thing for a young white man in graduate school to say) and he wanted to encourage me to reach my dreams, and that he would support me in whatever I tried to do.

This is why I married him, and why I am still married to him all these years later. Children were not in the cards for me (gotta love the trump card of "I was barren, actually" when someone looks askance at my lack of kids) so I'm a bit married to my career, and I adopted a group of students at my local university as their community advisor to get all my parenting urges out.

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